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Originally Posted by usayit
I'm sure you can find a group for every interest out there... I don't think the poster implied that you have to force yourself to participate in a group that you have no interest in. One of the great things about meeting in such a group is that the ice is already broken... everyone in that group has a common interest from which to approach and converse.
Sure, that makes sense. Personally, my hobbies are more solo, and the few that aren't are heavily male dominated. That said, its still very possible to meet women and connect with on issues. Hopefully people have rich enough lives where they have more than a couple of things that keep their interest. Often these groups can be good for making friends, but not more. Like, I've done our community servings alumni group for years, we serve meals a night a month at a shelter. Never once have I met a single lady +/- 8-10 years or so doing so, they tend not to do such things. Same with some meetups I do, nature photography, etc. Single women don't do them. Yeah, the ice is broken, but I'm not going to meet a woman doing so.
Thankfully, we have apps for that. It truly is a godsend.
If someone pretended to be into something to try to connect with me, and I found out it was a ruse, then I would 100% be turned off once I found out they had misled me. There is no reason for such games. Just be yourself, and it will work, or it won't.
100%? Wow
It's great that you have standards. Of course, pretending to like a band isn't like identity theft or anything.
Sure, that makes sense. Personally, my hobbies are more solo, and the few that aren't are heavily male dominated. That said, its still very possible to meet women and connect with on issues. Hopefully people have rich enough lives where they have more than a couple of things that keep their interest. Often these groups can be good for making friends, but not more. Like, I've done our community servings alumni group for years, we serve meals a night a month at a shelter. Never once have I met a single lady +/- 8-10 years or so doing so, they tend not to do such things. Same with some meetups I do, nature photography, etc. Single women don't do them. Yeah, the ice is broken, but I'm not going to meet a woman doing so.
Thankfully, we have apps for that. It truly is a godsend.
All the ladies I have seriously dated have started out as friends.... I wouldn't shy away from situations that seem more likely to be groups to establish friendships. I've met many single women in photography groups but I was married at that time period so I wouldn't pursue but the opportunity was there. Could be locale...
Half the time you could simply ask.. Canon or Nikon and go from there... Lol
Was chatting with a guy, 40 years old, single no kids, decent job, never been in a relationship longer than a couple of months. Nothing special looks-wise, doesn't seem to be a player either. Didn't strike me as someone who has an endless stream of women willing to have no-strings sex with.
How does sex work in this context? To me, seems like, as a young man, he has been either:
a. "hiring" women
b. has had someone steady on the side to have sex with outside of relationship
c. low sex drive
This is probably wrong and/or simplistic... But I can't help but wonder
Thoughts?
He isn't from another planet.
Nor does he have a low sex drive, not sure where that came from
Most normal people have never "hired" anyone, that is a strange one to add
Not sure if he's had a steady person on the side to have sex with, that is a possibility but not sure that
means anything.
How about he hasn't found the right person yet to marry?
My Cousin found the love of his life at age 52. He was crushed when she passed away. He was not a player and offered he's never had anyone on the side since it's basically molesting someone with their consent. No one should be using their own feelings and humanness against nature for a buck or two but some need to, I know. To meet basic needs.
Most normal people have never "hired" anyone, that is a strange one to add
People who make generalisations know very little about those who do 'hire' someone on occasion. I do it regularly and I'm as normal as I care to be, thank you.
At your age, most women expect that you know your way around the block, and will be pretty disappointed, UNLESS they know upfront, that you're inexperienced. There would be plenty of women who will accept that challenge.
Sassybluesy - Are you one of those women?
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