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I thought it was a pretty catchy title, so my hats off to the author for that one. She also makes some pretty decent points about the dating scene, and from the looks of it, Gen Z is starting to realize how ridiculously flawed the modern dating scene is.
I haven't been in the dating scene long, just a couple months. Before that I was either married to one of my two ex wives or with one of a handful of long term girlfriends. So I'm not an expert on all that single people have to go through to find a mate. I don't have any sort of social media presence so it's hard for me to relate to the author's comments on twitter or instagram. But her overall message seems to be one of frustration with how shallow "romantic" interactions have become.
I can say that, in my brief, recent dating experience it has truly become a "hook up" culture, even with people in my age range(mid 40s,) though the women I've dated recently have all been mid to late 30s. It took very little effort to get women to visit me without ever having met me in person and even less effort to get them into my bed(not that I was even trying.) But it's just seems that sex is a foregone conclusion at this point with practically anyone you meet.
"We live in a world where people are afraid to feel anything genuine, or at the very least, are afraid to show it. When someone is angry with you, there’s no phone call asking to talk about it. Instead you get a passive aggressive response to a text message or a suspiciously relevant subtweet, quietly calling you out in 140 characters or less. If you like someone, you don’t tell them how you feel; rather you act interested enough for them to pick up on it, but not enough to freak them out. Don’t like it? Too bad. It’s all a big game and if you don’t play by the rules then you lose, and if you lose you end up alone and drowning in a pile of your own insecurity, wondering what you did wrong."
I have my doubts about generalizing and extrapolating based on what some people are blogging about. I know many folks in their 20s and 30s who are capable of communicating and bonding without relying on social media.
There are still genuine people out there who want to meet people organically and not play games. Expand your non-digital social circle (male and female) and go from there.
The best line is, “Everything is calculated to appear thoughtless.” That, to me, is the saddest part of watching people interact today.
Young insecure people have always done that. Affect an air of nonchalance and who gives a ****. It's been written about through the ages ("Callow youth") and people grow out of it when they figure out it doesn't serve them in navigating adult life.
I have my doubts about generalizing and extrapolating based on what some people are blogging about. I know many folks in their 20s and 30s who are capable of communicating and bonding without relying on social media.
There are still genuine people out there who want to meet people organically and not play games. Expand your non-digital social circle (male and female) and go from there.
The reason I don't really agree with the point you're making is because young people seem to operate as a hive mind due to the aggressive inter-connectivity of social media. Now, I'm generalizing of course, but they all seem to adhere to the same linguistics, use the same methodology of reason and are exposed to the same information simultaneously. And it's led them to this dismal place where nothing is actually real, especially expression.
"Decent points"? None of the things in her article or opinions seemed to coincide with my thoughts on the "dating scene" --and I'm closer in age to the OP than a 22 year old.
I don't understand why he's trying to relate to her experiences as "how it is" anyway, they grew up in a different time and see things differently.
I sure wish you would go out and get some real life experience, OP. Now there are 2 ex wives and some LTRs, before I think there was 1relationship, which makes more sense in explaining your guesses at how things are.
"Decent points"? None of the things in her article or opinions seemed to coincide with my thoughts on the "dating scene" --and I'm closer in age to the OP than a 22 year old.
I don't understand why he's trying to relate to her experiences as "how it is" anyway, they grew up in a different time and see things differently.
I sure wish you would go out and get some real life experience, OP. Now there are 2 ex wives and some LTRs, before I think there was 1relationship, which makes more sense in explaining your guesses at how things are.
I relate to her experiences in the modern dating scene because I'm in the modern dating scene. Or did you not catch that part?
I relate to her experiences in the modern dating scene because I'm in the modern dating scene. Or did you not catch that part?
She's surprised your experience would jibe with a 22-year-old's, because RBBL's do not, and she's close to your age (and in the modern dating scene). Did you not catch that part?
I hate it too but I can tell you anybody that wants to violently harm themselves is skunk juice to women
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