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I would say the person who doesn’t want kids agrees to have one. You don’t always get what you want. That’s part of being in a relationship and not being single. If my wife wants to live in the city and I want To live in the suburbs I’m not going to break up with her.
The no vote always wins. People should never have kids just to keep a relationship. Kids deserve to be wanted, not tolerated.
I would think it would be incredibly hard to find someone who doesn’t want kids.
It isn't hard at all in my experience.
You have people that don't want them, people that do want them, and a surprising many that are ambivalent.
That's just in my experience from people I know. I have never taken a poll.
A question I have is why would someone want to have children with someone they knew didn't want them? They make the assumption they'll change their mind and enjoy a child without caring about the reason someone doesn't want a child in the first place?
It is no more fair to have a child with someone that doesn't want one than it is to not have one when your partner wants one. I see it as a deal breaker, best discussed early on in a relationship. It is also a good reason for anyone that doesn't want children to get a tubal ligation or a vasectomy.
I would say the person who doesn’t want kids agrees to have one. You don’t always get what you want. That’s part of being in a relationship and not being single. If my wife wants to live in the city and I want To live in the suburbs I’m not going to break up with her.
I’ve read some really ridiculous responses on here, but I think this might take the cake.
100+ matches in DC on OkCupid women 25-32 who don’t want kids. Not that hard if you hunt on the right grounds.
Absolutely. OLD has made it very easy to find someone who doesn’t want kids. If it had been available in my twenties it would saved me a lot of heartache and wasted time.
We’re couples who broke up due to one person not wanting kids and the other wanting kids really in love? When I think in love, I think of doing anything for the other person. I am skeptical of if these people were really fully in love.
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Originally Posted by Berteau
I would say the person who doesn’t want kids agrees to have one. You don’t always get what you want. That’s part of being in a relationship and not being single. If my wife wants to live in the city and I want To live in the suburbs I’m not going to break up with her.
Ok, so you think that if you're really in love with someone, you should agree to have kids with that person even if you don't really want kids? My opinion is that if you're really in love with someone then being with that person should be enough for you and you shouldn't feel the need to add kids to the situation. But no one cares about my opinion or yours and they're going to do what they want.
OP, out of curiosity, what is the biggest disagreement you've had with your wife? Did you compromise, or did one of you completely defer to the other's wishes?
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