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Originally Posted by Mink57
Wrong.
Women today aren't "aloof and frigid." They smart. They don't want a guy who primarily wants sex.
Women as a whole are not STUPID.
Despite what some of you guys THINK they "should" be.
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Even the few women out there who for whatever reason are OK with a man who primarily wants sex, and are primarily looking for something casual themselves...most that I've known are sick to death of typical guys dishing out mediocre (or worse) experiences.
I've seen some folks say something to the effect that sex is like pizza, in that even when it's bad it's still good. Well, I disagree on both counts. I would rather go without than have bad sex or eat bad pizza. A Tombstone brand frozen fling is of no interest!
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I feel like there's got to be a good joke about "New York Style" in here somewhere, but it's beyond me to put it together. Deep dish? Stuffed crust? No?
The issue that I have though, with this kind of reasoning... There are plenty of men who really do want loving, committed relationships. BUT. That alone does not make them special, desirable, or dateable. They think it SHOULD, just like opening doors or using basic manners. They believe that because of this pernicious myth that men are all just running around acting the hound dog, that if THEY say they want the real thing, then women should be grateful and excited about this.
Well... First of all, ya still have to make that connection, a woman's got to like ya, right?
And secondly, how can we really know, when it's been men's classic game to lie about their intentions in the playing of the "game" for...well...forever? Right? But even if I give a man the benefit of the doubt, just because he wants a wife was never gonna mean that I would want it to be ME.
And part of the problem was just what we see where guys are not willing to hear it about the real substance of those decisions. How it was never really about amazing good looks or a fat wallet. It was about character, values, humor, it was always about all the factors that make up the answer to one simple question...
How does this person make me
feel?
How I want to feel with a man that I might continue dating, sleep with, have a relationship with... Seen, heard, desired, I want that each of us can make the other laugh, I want sparkling eyes and intellectual stimulation with just a dash of mystery or intrigue on the side. I want to feel engaged, excited and curious. But that is just me, though. Other women? They want other things.
In Cincinnati they sweeten the red sauce, even at the pizza chain places like Pizza Hut, you know, and some people, the Cincinnati people...they eat it up. Not me. Some like it sugary sweet...some like it scorching hot and a little spicy. I hear some folks are even into pineapple, like hey, whatever floats your boat I say.
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