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I've known a few that I knew I wasn't right for them or dare I say good enough as such, but we still keep in touch on a strictly platonic level
Yeah...but if your were crazy in love with someone, really and deeply in love with them, I don't think it just goes away. It can't. At least not for me. My heart doesn't work like that. I had puppy love in high school and I had fun with that boy. I laughed so much. He broke up with me and he broke my heart. I didn't date for a while, but I got over him and never felt that much for him afterwards.
I wasn't mad or anything. I guess I just didn't love him like I thought. Next I got into my first adult relationship and I loved the sh*t out of him and I never stopped. I broke up with him because he just had control issues and played too many games. I knew it wasn't good so I got out.
Then I met my husband. He was and is such a kind guy. He was willing to give me anything and/or do anything except for kill for me. He's more of a ride or slide not a ride or die kinda of guy. He's a bit of a trickster. We have a playful relaxed love. It's good for the most part. We make a good team. He makes my life easier. We love each other.
But that one...I don't know why my mind always travels there. I've never synced with anyone like that before, mentally, spiritually, sexually. Perhaps...God will reveal the reason one day. I'm sure that I have not cultivated and harbored this love for the one who got away in vain.
I never got over my first true love, I married her!
I'm always surprised, and a little bit impressed, when I hear someone married their first love and then went on to have a successful marriage. I say that only because you're, usually, pretty young and might not be making the right choices at the time. It's nice to hear, though.
Yeah...but if your were crazy in love with someone, really and deeply in love with them, I don't think it just goes away. It can't. At least not for me. My heart doesn't work like that. I had puppy love in high school and I had fun with that boy. I laughed so much. He broke up with me and he broke my heart. I didn't date for a while, but I got over him and never felt that much for him afterwards.
I wasn't mad or anything. I guess I just didn't love him like I thought. Next I got into my first adult relationship and I loved the sh*t out of him and I never stopped. I broke up with him because he just had control issues and played too many games. I knew it wasn't good so I got out.
Then I met my husband. He was and is such a kind guy. He was willing to give me anything and/or do anything except for kill for me. He's more of a ride or slide not a ride or die kinda of guy. He's a bit of a trickster. We have a playful relaxed love. It's good for the most part. We make a good team. He makes my life easier. We love each other.
But that one...I don't know why my mind always travels there. I've never synced with anyone like that before, mentally, spiritually, sexually. Perhaps...God will reveal the reason one day. I'm sure that I have not cultivated and harbored this love for the one who got away in vain.
Oh my great post
Well the only woman I actually " loved " was my ex... ( Italian one..... Just in case you are lost lol )
and yeah I do miss it and her at times, however it got to the point where I accepted that we wasn't going to be together forever that made both splitting up and moving on much easier for me and I'm sure her.
It was heartbreaking as it was the happiest I've ever been ( even better than going out every night in my youth ) and I actually haven't got too involved since strongly with another woman since ( about 18 months now ). I was closed off because of the break up I'll admit at first but obviously I was fine shortly afterwards and as you know enjoying my freedom .
But to answer your question my love I really do think it's down to both realising and accepting that things have worked out better for the both of you than if you were together and are happier now..... Whether that she's with someone more suited or wanted kids etc basically something that I wasn't prepared to do or change at the time.
youll still have some respect or love for them as you spend a lengthy time together but seeing them happy in their current life will steer/prompt you to keep it platonic if you see?
This id obviously my opinion and how I look at it but again I'm really happy to see a few that I've I've known do well
I'm always surprised, and a little bit impressed, when I hear someone married their first love and then went on to have a successful marriage. I say that only because you're, usually, pretty young and might not be making the right choices at the time. It's nice to hear, though.
Well the only woman I actually " loved " was my ex... ( Italian one..... Just in case you are lost lol )
and yeah I do miss it and her at times, however it got to the point where I accepted that we wasn't going to be together forever that made both splitting up and moving on much easier for me and I'm sure her.
It was heartbreaking as it was the happiest I've ever been ( even better than going out every night in my youth ) and I actually haven't got too involved since strongly with another woman since ( about 18 months now ). I was closed off because of the break up I'll admit at first but obviously I was fine shortly afterwards and as you know enjoying my freedom .
But to answer your question my love I really do think it's down to both realising and accepting that things have worked out better for the both of you than if you were together and are happier now..... Whether that she's with someone more suited or wanted kids etc basically something that I wasn't prepared to do or change at the time.
youll still have some respect or love for them as you spend a lengthy time together but seeing them happy in their current life will steer/prompt you to keep it platonic if you see?
This id obviously my opinion and how I look at it but again I'm really happy to see a few that I've I've known do well
Oh, the Italian. Veni Vidi Amavi! (We came, we saw, we loved). Do you think you will woo her back back when the time is right? You won't always be two ships passing in the night? Gah!!! I'm such a romantic!!
Oh, the Italian. Veni Vidi Amavi! (We came, we saw, we loved). Do you think you will woo her back back when the time is right? You won't always be two ships passing in the night? Gah!!! I'm such a romantic!!
No she's in Italy! LOL
But sorry no when I said I missed her I mean the actual relationship part and being with someone.
I've slept with many old flames again but a serious relationship.... Romantically its done when it's done , I'd love to see how's she's doing but only in a platonic sense
But sorry no when I said I missed her I mean the actual relationship part and being with someone.
I've slept with many old flames again but a serious relationship.... Romantically its done when it's done , I'd love to see how's she's doing but only in a platonic sense
Of course, but somehow I think platonic to you...means sleeping with her casually
The last one lasted about three years but I can't call it "love," the entire thing was very complicated and unusual. Sometimes I still wonder what if? I don't date, but for the most part I have gotten over it.
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) and I actually haven't got too involved since strongly with another woman since ( about 18 months now ). I was closed off because of the break up I'll admit at first but obviously I was fine shortly afterwards and as you know enjoying my freedom 
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