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Maybe he's been focusing on school and his career and he is just now ready to settle down......not all good men get married right out of HS.
I think its best best for people right after they graduate high school, they should go to college, find the career they want in the future, then get that career, find that special someone and never have children.
I think its best best for people right after they graduate high school, they should go to college, find the career they want in the future, then get that career, find that special someone and never have children.
Yes but if you were a smart single mom, your "good man" would be one with kids of his own.
As a single man without kids, I find that comment offensive. And as someone who has dated single moms, I never found them penalizing me for not having kids. I also take offense to your comment that guys will overlook the fact that a woman has kids if it means he'll get sex from her. I think you'll find that most guys, no matter how much they love sex, won't bother with a single mother just for that. They'll move on to someone else first and trust me, for guys who are just looking for sex, it's not hard to find girls who will offer it. For those guys, a woman who has kids is a major turnoff and they'll run screaming before putting in the time and effort to get her to sleep with them. The guy who sticks around isn't desperate. He's just discovered the person is worth dealing with the extra issues that come up when dating a single parent.
I'm still trying to figure out why having a child is depicted as being a bad, negative thing. That's just one more to love......kids are so amazing, they need good role models so badly and they look up to anyone older than they are. Why is wanting to taking the opportunity to have an impact on a child's life such an issue? Kids are truly a blessing and if I ever was single I would never ever want to date anyone who disliked kids anyway.......good riddens to them.
Hi all, I am the OP. I thought this thread died, but I guess it got revived.
I'm obviously not in it for the sex... I'm looking for a solid relationship and I don't see why the kid would matter. I don't want to go into details, but I know for several facts that she's not just looking for someone to latch onto and support her child... and this is great.
As far as our relationship goes... for those interested... we shared our first kiss last night. How cute and romantic, isn't it?
Edit: Actually, a series of nice, long kisses. Why I post this on here... I don't know. Probably sounds bad. Although I know at least one person who wanted a status update.
I'm still trying to figure out why having a child is depicted as being a bad, negative thing. That's just one more to love......kids are so amazing, they need good role models so badly and they look up to anyone older than they are. Why is wanting to taking the opportunity to have an impact on a child's life such an issue? Kids are truly a blessing and if I ever was single I would never ever want to date anyone who disliked kids anyway.......good riddens to them.
There are several types of single parents. I think that people are the most accepting and forgiving towards a women that had children while being married. So if she is divorced and getting child support payments or even widowed, then that most acceptable scenario. Next would be a divorced woman whose exhusband is a deadbeat father because that shows poor judgment in choosing her children's sperm donor. Then lastly, are the women who have had their children out of wedlock and with little or no support from their exes. The more different fathers involved, the more unappealing she is as a potential mate to a quality guy.
It's not a matter of disliking children, but more that those with children out of wedlock and with deadbeat sperm donors show very poor judgment skills. No child should be born in a situation where both parents aren't there to love and be financially supportive of them.
In Ocuri's first post, he didn't say that this 26 year old was divorced, so it sounded like her child was born out of wedlock. But even if the child was born within a marriage, it then implies that she married young, had the baby too soon and then neither or her ex tried very hard to keep the relationship together.
Anyway, one rude observation that I've often heard guys say is that with a single mom, at least you know she puts out...
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