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I've been very lucky that the men in my life (boyfriends, friends and family members) don't have a compulsive need to check out every semi-hot woman that walks by or if they do, they keep their observations to themselves because they are gentlemen. My stepdad, my grandfathers, uncle and BIL just don't have their minds in the gutter. I know that my current boyfriend does NOT look at other women. He's only interested in making love with me, not having sex with hordes of random hotties. We joke that the only women I might have to worry about would be an attractive math or physics major or one with a career as an engineer or pilot. He's not interested in dating Danica Patrick, but he feels she's a good driver in a very competitive field. ...
Is it a matter of wanting to have sex with all those females?
When I look at a female on the street, or store somewhere. I am not thinking about having sex with them. Should that thought come to mind, it is my responsibility to stop it. But really it rarely does.
I have a 'hunger'. I am sorry, but I am a guy.
When I have not eaten for a long time, then smelling a restaurant where they are grilling steaks might cause my mouth to drool. Does that mean that I 'want' to go eat a steak? I might be on a diet, I might be broke, there could be a long list of reasons why I have not eaten for months, and why I can not eat now. So I keep driving on by, and soon I will be far away from those smells.
A fed man, would have less hunger pains; and be better able to control the whole smell of food verses mouth-watering thing.
But a starving man would have less of that control.
I understand that thinking about sex is gutter-mindedness. I have been told this many times. I get it. At times, the 'draw' is very strong.
This reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where Julia showed some nip on a Christmas card, and George did not get one... so he keeps asking and she grabs his head and rubs it around her chest! HA! Now that was comedy!
That's where I got that move from!! It works like a charm. Plus I get a cheap thrill out of too
Is it a matter of wanting to have sex with all those females?
When I look at a female on the street, or store somewhere. I am not thinking about having sex with them. Should that thought come to mind, it is my responsibility to stop it. But really it rarely does.
I have a 'hunger'. I am sorry, but I am a guy.
When I have not eaten for a long time, then smelling a restaurant where they are grilling steaks might cause my mouth to drool. Does that mean that I 'want' to go eat a steak? I might be on a diet, I might be broke, there could be a long list of reasons why I have not eaten for months, and why I can not eat now. So I keep driving on by, and soon I will be far away from those smells.
A fed man, would have less hunger pains; and be better able to control the whole smell of food verses mouth-watering thing.
But a starving man would have less of that control.
I understand that thinking about sex is gutter-mindedness. I have been told this many times. I get it. At times, the 'draw' is very strong.
Well then, I feel very sorry for you, that you have this constant hunger to look at other women. I don't think that you can use "being a man" as an excuse. It's more that you've never used a little self discipline or restraint to curb your impulses. You just have no impulse control and have decided to use the lame excuse of having a penis for needing to check out females. The brain is very powerful, you just need to harness it to do what you want. If you mind were occupied with more cerebral concerns, then it wouldn't have the extra time to be checking out boobs or whatever it is that's so important to look at in the women you see. Honestly, what's the big deal about having to check out every attractive woman? On the outside, there's really not that much different between us except some variations in our hair and eye color, skin tones, our breast size and overall body shape. Where it really matters in terms of quality companionship is our personalities and smarts, but that you can't tell from a distance.
Think of all the hours you have frittered away in your short life on this planet on an activity that is so unimportant and unproductive as girl watching. What a waste of a human life.
Well then, I feel very sorry for you, that you have this constant hunger to look at other women. I don't think that you can use "being a man" as an excuse. It's more that you've never used a little self discipline or restraint to curb your impulses. You just have no impulse control and have decided to use the lame excuse of having a penis for needing to check out females. The brain is very powerful, you just need to harness it to do what you want. If you mind were occupied with more cerebral concerns, then it wouldn't have the extra time to be checking out boobs or whatever it is that's so important to look at in the women you see. Honestly, what's the big deal about having to check out every attractive woman? On the outside, there's really not that much different between us except some variations in our hair and eye color, skin tones, our breast size and overall body shape. Where it really matters in terms of quality companionship is our personalities and smarts, but that you can't tell from a distance.
Think of all the hours you have frittered away in your short life on this planet on an activity that is so unimportant and unproductive as girl watching. What a waste of a human life.
Well then, I feel very sorry for you, that you have this constant hunger to look at other women. I don't think that you can use "being a man" as an excuse. It's more that you've never used a little self discipline or restraint to curb your impulses. You just have no impulse control and have decided to use the lame excuse of having a penis for needing to check out females. The brain is very powerful, you just need to harness it to do what you want. If you mind were occupied with more cerebral concerns, then it wouldn't have the extra time to be checking out boobs or whatever it is that's so important to look at in the women you see. Honestly, what's the big deal about having to check out every attractive woman? On the outside, there's really not that much different between us except some variations in our hair and eye color, skin tones, our breast size and overall body shape. Where it really matters in terms of quality companionship is our personalities and smarts, but that you can't tell from a distance.
Think of all the hours you have frittered away in your short life on this planet on an activity that is so unimportant and unproductive as girl watching. What a waste of a human life.
Are you a communist?
Crap. The urge to reproduce is one of the strongest instincts in any species. Human beings are no exception.
Perhaps you can turn it off, but what's the point in doing that?
Well then, I feel very sorry for you, that you have this constant hunger to look at other women. I don't think that you can use "being a man" as an excuse. It's more that you've never used a little self discipline or restraint to curb your impulses. You just have no impulse control and have decided to use the lame excuse of having a penis for needing to check out females. The brain is very powerful, you just need to harness it to do what you want. If you mind were occupied with more cerebral concerns, then it wouldn't have the extra time to be checking out boobs or whatever it is that's so important to look at in the women you see. Honestly, what's the big deal about having to check out every attractive woman? On the outside, there's really not that much different between us except some variations in our hair and eye color, skin tones, our breast size and overall body shape. Where it really matters in terms of quality companionship is our personalities and smarts, but that you can't tell from a distance.
Think of all the hours you have frittered away in your short life on this planet on an activity that is so unimportant and unproductive as girl watching. What a waste of a human life.
Having an impulse does not mean that you act on that impulse.
My point was that I dont 'girl watch'.
Girl watching would make self control more difficult for me.
That is why I don't 'check out' females.
Rather maintaining control on eyes and trying to maintain control over thoughts.
For cryin out loud ppl......we look......we, yes, as in all of us.......if you say you don't your probably either in a convent, the 5th member of the Monkeys or your flat out full of it. Geeezzus....
For cryin out loud ppl......we look......we, yes, as in all of us.......if you say you don't your probably either in a convent, the 5th member of the Monkeys or your flat out full of it. Geeezzus....
I alway like the posters that say "My SO doesn't look though" I'm like yeah right.
Crap. The urge to reproduce is one of the strongest instincts in any species. Human beings are no exception.
Perhaps you can turn it off, but what's the point in doing that?
Perhaps life would be better, if we could all learn to turn it off.
I know that I spent many years living and working in an all male environment.
Work was much more productive when there were no females present. No female pheromones in the air messing with us either.
It is common knowledge among men living underwater, that those pheromones can mess up work schedules when they are present.
Life would be far simpler and more productive if we could all simply turn off our God given drives.
Produce 2.2 children and then turn that thing right off.
Some people already are like this.
I was with a support group this morning and one gentleman there is currently negotiating with his doctor, to chemically turn his libido off for him.
To allow the man to live a 'happy' life with his wife, and in the presence of other females.
Some of us simply can not turn it off, we are not built that way.
Origen [one of the founding fathers of the Christian church] was like this.
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