Too many single women in their 20's with kids (profiles, Dallas, years)
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A lot of this is going to be dependent on where you live.
I live in a small town with pretty traditional family values. I'd say most of the working class women I went to high school with had kids by 25, often multiple kids, and often no longer with the father of those kids. They end up pregnant with their high school sweetheart, that doesn't work, and they bust up. It's statistically uncommon for a woman in this situation to be earning even the median income. They're likely going to need some level of financial or other support, like childcare.
I'm not interested in dating someone in this situation. I'd rather date someone with no kids who doesn't work than a low income single mom. It's just usually less drama. I might sleep with the single mom, but that would be about it. I've put the kibosh on several potential relationships that likely would have otherwise gone somewhere, but the kids just annoyed me.
If you live in a major coastal city with people that are career driven, it's unlikely many will be having kids in their 20s, and the dating pool is just better overall.
“You might sleep with a single mom...but that is about it.”
My point exactly.
nothing wrong with being a single mother just as long as you realize most men aren't interested.
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Originally Posted by Inacitysomewhere
“You might sleep with a single mom...but that is about it.”
My point exactly.
The majority of single moms get no shortage of attention, especially if they are using Tinder or Bumble. Single moms can have sex on demand. Commitment is usually another story. Many single moms struggle to obtain commitment.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
The same can especially be said about deadbeat dads.
Not at all. Deadbeat males in general have little trouble getting female attention. In general, the average male that has served prison time has had more female sexual partners than the average male who has not served prison time.
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Originally Posted by Serious Conversation
A lot of this is going to be dependent on where you live.
I live in a small town with pretty traditional family values. I'd say most of the working class women I went to high school with had kids by 25, often multiple kids, and often no longer with the father of those kids. They end up pregnant with their high school sweetheart, that doesn't work, and they bust up. It's statistically uncommon for a woman in this situation to be earning even the median income. They're likely going to need some level of financial or other support, like childcare.
I'm not interested in dating someone in this situation. I'd rather date someone with no kids who doesn't work than a low income single mom. It's just usually less drama. I might sleep with the single mom, but that would be about it. I've put the kibosh on several potential relationships that likely would have otherwise gone somewhere, but the kids just annoyed me.
If you live in a major coastal city with people that are career driven, it's unlikely many will be having kids in their 20s, and the dating pool is just better overall.
Women who do not pursue higher education or at most have an associate degree/trade school education are usually mothers by 25, 27 at the latest. This Pew Research data from 2015 supports the claim to an extent. The data is based from a sample of women 40-50 who had ever given birth. Keep in mind that these women were born from 1965-1975, which was a slightly different era. In the sample, median age for 1st childbirth for a woman whose highest educational attainment is high school or less is 24. For associate's/trade school, it is 25. For a holder of a bachelor's degree, it is 28. Master's or higher is 30. If you consider any women that have ever given birth, it probably would push all these figures up higher.
I live in a major United States city, albeit one that is not on the coasts. It is not difficult in this city to find woman who are 30+ with no marriages and no kids.
As for the quality of the dating pool, big cities are not a picnic. Women in large U.S. cities have too much choice and big cities (750,000+ in the metropolitan area) are basically cesspools for the mating market. Some of the worst attributes are there. The best cities for the quality of the pool are the mid-sized cities (150,000 - 750,000). Large enough to have choices, but small enough to avoid the cesspool issues of large city dating.
Not at all. Deadbeat males in general have little trouble getting female attention. In general, the average male that has served prison time has had more female sexual partners than the average male who has not served prison time.
And what caliber of woman is beating down the door to be with either of these types of men? Exactly!
And what caliber of woman is beating down the door to be with either of these types of men? Exactly!
The average auto thief has more options in the mating marketplace than the average accountant. It's a turn on for many women across the spectrum to be with a exciting guy. A guy involved in criminal activity is more exciting than an accountant or an engineer.
The average auto thief has more options in the mating marketplace than the average accountant. It's a turn on for many women across the spectrum to be with a exciting guy. A guy involved in criminal activity is more exciting than an accountant or an engineer.
You’re reading too much internet and not actually getting it.
You’re reading too much internet and not actually getting it.
lol. Think about the kind of women who'd be into the local auto thief or jailbird. Most guys would prefer not to think about that. They set their sights higher. But I guess now we know what kind of women RJ considers "dateable"....
The average auto thief has more options in the mating marketplace than the average accountant. It's a turn on for many women across the spectrum to be with a exciting guy. A guy involved in criminal activity is more exciting than an accountant or an engineer.
I just need to vent a little frustration. I am out in the dating game giving 100% just like most single guys in their mid-20's, but I have hit a rut lately where every attractive, single woman I meet has at LEAST one kid and was never married to the father.
Don't get me wrong. I love kids and want to have a family of my own someday. If I were in my 40's and still single, I would accept the fact that there probably aren't going to be too many childless women in my dating pool. But at 26, I'm just not ready for a ready-made family.
So here is my question. Doesn't ANYONE wait to get MARRIED before they have babies anymore? Mitt Romney caught some flack for saying basically the same thing at CPAC last year, but the man is right. Take it from a 26-year-old male who is tired of his dating pool being saturated with kids. Time for the lifeguard to blow the whistle for adults-only swim.
That's not what I meant, B. I think it's perfectly okay not to want to marry someone who has children -- but I believe it's okay for people of both sexes. Men should not be offended if women don't want to raise their children from prior relationships or deal with custody/visitation/child-support crap.
Absolutely true for both sexes
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