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Unless things have changed that much, several years back, if they were married, the Father DID have a say.
I still don't understand what that "say" could be. OK, I'm married, I find out I'm pregnant, one morning I get up and go and have an abortion... Where's that "say"? He may or may not know... Doesn't make any difference. Is he gonna have me committed or something?
I still don't understand what that "say" could be. OK, I'm married, I find out I'm pregnant, one morning I get up and go and have an abortion... Where's that "say"? He may or may not know... Doesn't make any difference. Is he gonna have me committed or something?
Hopefully not....
I don`t know. I guess if they are legally married, the Father has say so.
Now, if you get up one morning, find out your pregnant, go have an abortion, then thats another story. He won`t even know what has been done.
All I`m going on, is from our experience with that Birthmother.
I still don't understand what that "say" could be. OK, I'm married, I find out I'm pregnant, one morning I get up and go and have an abortion... Where's that "say"? He may or may not know... Doesn't make any difference. Is he gonna have me committed or something?
This is the point I was making, in my post, at the end of the day the woman has control over her body.
I didn't make the statement, but my answer would be both. A child is the financial responsibility of both parents. No parent should be allowed to "sign off" THAT responsibility, otherwise taxpayers wind up picking up the tab for these kids.
You absolutely positively don't want to support a child? Then don't have sex. I shouldn't have to pay to raise your "mistake".
Hallelujah! That's exactly what happens. Why do you and I have to pay for John and Jane getting their rocks off? It's so irresponsible that it's mind-numbing.
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Originally Posted by Sunil's Dad
Makes sense.......but why does just the mother decide the fate of the pregnancy? Why does the father have equal responsibility but not equal rights?
Good questions, along with why does the female have to contend with the trauma of an abortion or a pregnancy? Why must her life be at risk with the males only role (pre-birth) an orgasm? It's not fair at all.
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Originally Posted by Mearth
You're arguing over an inconsequential vessel - the rest of us are arguing over the human being.
I think this is at the crux of the issue all the way around.
I still don't understand what that "say" could be. OK, I'm married, I find out I'm pregnant, one morning I get up and go and have an abortion... Where's that "say"? He may or may not know... Doesn't make any difference. Is he gonna have me committed or something?
Exactly. Probably most abortions take place in this type of situation, I'm guessing. Well, maybe not the married part, but where the woman finds out, makes a decision on her own, and no one else ever knows.
Let's make peace early on - whatever is in one's body is his/hers to do with as he/she pleases! How's that for fair? Guess that still leaves the child support wide open...
To me it's a hypothetical situation only, but if I were to have a child by somebody who doesn't want it, I wouldn't seek anything from him. I'm that proud.
I hope you have a great job. Because you need alot of money to raise a child hun.
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It hurts to see some people are sooo heartless when talking about a situation I was already in.
Guess that still leaves the child support wide open...
