married women that have cheated on their husbands i have a question (cheater, American)
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I've cheated before: it feels good for a few minutes or hours, but after the crime, it feels terrible, bad, and filthy. Is not a nice feeling. At least not for me, since I actually have feelings for my spouse.
Why I've done it? I need sex, and I only cheated while I was underway on a TAD.
How come no one has suggested you beating the crap outta the guy she slept with? You'd feel better and she'd never cheat on you again for 20 different good reasons.
How come no one has suggested you beating the crap outta the guy she slept with? You'd feel better and she'd never cheat on you again for 20 different good reasons.
As much sense as it makes when you're the one she cheated with and your rage overcomes your ability to reason, it doesn't make sense when you sleep with a woman whom you thought was single because she told you she was but instead turned out to be married, then you get an aluminum bat upside your head for something you didn't know you did. Not that I'm jumping to conclusions, just presenting one plausible bit of info that unreasonable people can usually overlook in these heat-of-the-moment situations.
And when a woman deceives one, or two or several other men and not just her husband, I think the 'payback' should be redirected somewhere other than the other man/men who got duped. And this isn't woman-hating; change the genders, and the same still applies.
Since the OP is back, I'll respond. I cheated on my husband when I was married. In my case, I just didn't see him as being a "man" by the last couple of years of our marriage. He wasn't a fixer, he was barely employed here and there, and anytime there was a household problem to be solved either I had to take care of it or it didn't get done. I was exhausted; it was too much of a burden for me. The man I slept with a few times was a real "go getter" type who was very much in control of himself and his destiny. Given what I had at home, this was very exciting to me.
I have a friend who cheated on her husband for different reasons - and I think this is very common. Her husband was a hard worker, used to work long hours, commute a lot etc in order to put a roof over the family's heads and food on the table. She felt neglected because he wasn't around, and didn't feel loved, so she sought out attention elsewhere. In this instance - and maybe yours is the same - I think that its a case of men and women viewing a situation differently, in a gender specific way. I know (now) that to a man he is thinking that he is working so hard, sacrificing personal time because he loves his wife. And women, they don't view these actions as a loving thing. They want to hear about love, they want to feel it. Neither are understanding each other.
My opinion regarding infidelity in general, is that a marriage can survive male infidelity far more easily than female infidelity. I don't think a man can handle the thought of a another guy's penis inside of his wife, and if he ejaculates in her... forget it! I know that you, OP, say you have forgiven her but its highly possible you are only trying to convince yourself.
Since the OP is back, I'll respond. I cheated on my husband when I was married. In my case, I just didn't see him as being a "man" by the last couple of years of our marriage. He wasn't a fixer, he was barely employed here and there, and anytime there was a household problem to be solved either I had to take care of it or it didn't get done. I was exhausted; it was too much of a burden for me. The man I slept with a few times was a real "go getter" type who was very much in control of himself and his destiny. Given what I had at home, this was very exciting to me.
I have a friend who cheated on her husband for different reasons - and I think this is very common. Her husband was a hard worker, used to work long hours, commute a lot etc in order to put a roof over the family's heads and food on the table. She felt neglected because he wasn't around, and didn't feel loved, so she sought out attention elsewhere. In this instance - and maybe yours is the same - I think that its a case of men and women viewing a situation differently, in a gender specific way. I know (now) that to a man he is thinking that he is working so hard, sacrificing personal time because he loves his wife. And women, they don't view these actions as a loving thing. They want to hear about love, they want to feel it. Neither are understanding each other.
My opinion regarding infidelity in general, is that a marriage can survive male infidelity far more easily than female infidelity. I don't think a man can handle the thought of a another guy's penis inside of his wife, and if he ejaculates in her... forget it! I know that you, OP, say you have forgiven her but its highly possible you are only trying to convince yourself.
Either way good luck.
In such situation where a man is working his socks off to provide for his family and therefore he spends less time with his family, instead of his wife whining and, sometimes, cheating, she should suggest that he works less and SHE gets up and finds a job to help and contribute financially to the household [considering the kids are school age]. It's very selfish by the wife in those circumstances and she should understand the burden that is on her husband's shoulder cos he is solely responsibly for putting food on the table and roof over their head.
i dont care cheating is WRONG! and i hope you pay for it
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We cheat on 'em and bang their women?
