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Old 04-17-2014, 06:15 AM
 
Location: somewhere in the Midwest
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Honestly, I think most women (single moms and women without kids) don't want to marry single dads because they don't want the legal and financial responsibility of taking care of someone else's kids. I also think most men (single dads and men without kids) don't want to marry single moms because they don't want the legal and financial responsibility of taking care of someone else's kids.
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Old 04-17-2014, 07:12 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Honestly, I think most women (single moms and women without kids) don't want to marry single dads because they don't want the legal and financial responsibility of taking care of someone else's kids. I also think most men (single dads and men without kids) don't want to marry single moms because they don't want the legal and financial responsibility of taking care of someone else's kids.
This sadly can very much be the truth. But some single parents are just so darn irresistible.

When love and attraction is that strong, you overlook the financial responsibilities, and such. You really cannot help whom you fall in love with..
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Old 04-17-2014, 11:21 AM
 
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I have single friends who date single fathers, but I refuse to date anyone with kids. That's an absolute deal breaker for me and for multiple reasons.
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Old 04-17-2014, 11:23 AM
 
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I have single friends who date single fathers, but I refuse to date anyone with kids. That's an absolute deal breaker for me and for multiple reasons.

Woman just do not want to raise another woman kids is i big one right?
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Old 04-17-2014, 11:24 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Honestly, I think most women (single moms and women without kids) don't want to marry single dads because they don't want the legal and financial responsibility of taking care of someone else's kids. I also think most men (single dads and men without kids) don't want to marry single moms because they don't want the legal and financial responsibility of taking care of someone else's kids.
Women who don't want to have their own kids figure that a guy who already has kids will let them off the hook. That doesn't always hold true, having kids can actually be an advantage for men in some sectors of the dating market.
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Old 04-17-2014, 11:30 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Woman just do not want to raise another woman kids is i big one right?
That's a weird way to say it. They may be be another woman's kids, but if the guy she's in love with is their father, they figure it out. Rejecting the kids would be rejecting a part of him, and that wouldn't fly in a mature relationship.
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Old 04-17-2014, 11:34 AM
 
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When I was single I dated guys with kids. it was fine. i liked the kids but always felt a little insecure about it all. i was worried if the kids liked me and sometimes i felt in the way sometimes ..but not jealous
but i was in my 20s if that makes a difference .. i think it may
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Old 04-17-2014, 12:00 PM
 
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When I met my husband, he was a single dad who had his kids full-time, and I was single with no kids. I thought it was great that he was taking care of his kids. His ex-wife was in prison for embezzlement, and I didn't have to deal with her.

We've been married 7 years, together 12, and both his kids consider me Mom.
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Old 04-17-2014, 12:04 PM
 
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This sadly can very much be the truth. But some single parents are just so darn irresistible.

When love and attraction is that strong, you overlook the financial responsibilities, and such. You really cannot help whom you fall in love with..
My only fear of dating a single mom is what is i like her kid more then i like her ? I all ready know will end up staying too long and it not far to either one of us. I just feel like if I walk out i will be walking out on the child like his or her real dad did.

I know i am not dating her kid and all but it is a package deal kind of thing so it is complicated.
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Old 04-17-2014, 02:14 PM
 
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The best most drama free situation I know involves my sister and the guy she married.

The guy knocked up his girlfriend (or rather she went off her birth control, at least that's the story) when they were both 18. They never married, and they split up two years later while he was in college but maintained a pretty good relationship.

The guy makes really good money as a business owner and was 34 when he met my sister, who was 29 at the time, and by that time the kid was 16-17 and in his senior of HS.

They got married, his kid went off to college and doesn't live with them, they bought this awesome house together, and now she's expecting. So at age 36, he's going to be a dad again.

My sister is incredibly happy, and his kid likes my sister.

This is one of these success stories. My sister judged him on the type of guy he was - and she dated guys without kids guys before she met him but he was best of all of them.
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