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I have a Gay friend who was in a Lesbian Bar, he said when he went to the mens bathroom to pee, a woman walked up to the urinal and peed right into it, she saw the look of schock on his face and told him it was just like holding your finger on the end of a garden hose to make it spray...
WOW, the things I have missed in my sheltered life.
I have to wonder if the casual sex thing isn't more about hormone levels then anything else, is it posible that people have a harder time resisting the urge to have casual sex because of an elevated hormone level?? Aren't we all familair with the time of the month when we are wanting it more then another??
I have a few friends who go to Bars and are always picking up women.
One friend will pick up a different woman every Friday night. If he goes to a bar and does not pick up a woman that night he will feel like a failure. The funny thing is he sees the same people in the bar every weekend. If he sees someone he had picked up before he will act like they are invisible and he is only interested in someone he has not met before.
I ask him if he is ill at ease being so close physically and emotionally with someone he has never met. We all know how hard it is to talk to people we do not know well. Then it should be so much more difficult having sexual and romantic relations with someone who we do not really know.
Are you ill at ease the first time you try to get sexual or romantic with someone new?
Then you might as well hook up with a blow up doll! I want emotion with my sex!
THANKYOU FOR SOMEONE SHOWing some commone SENSE !!!
they make "toys" if you're bored on a Friday night.
The connection you feel with someone when you are mentally, emotionally, AND physically connecting with them while making love trumps ANY one night stand.
I have lots of casual encounters..I see the same guys in various places and usually smile or say hello. If you're all in it for fun, no big deal. However, I've been told that I've broken a few hearts when someone thought our night of fun meant they were going to see me on a more romantic basis.
I prefer my sex in a loving relationship. It's very different from my casual partners, not as "hot" (sometimes it is) nor as exciting. It's gentle and warm and almost moves me to tears.
...dang I wish my love was here and not 3,000 miles away!
In an ideal world you do not have sex until your married but we get horny and need to do what we can to satify ourselves. I prefer to have more than just a one night stand.
I think casual sex is awful and I am gay.
Not only is it emotionally destructive but you can get STI and STDS
It is better to be without than with considering all the negative risks.
Also I don't mind having casual make out sessions as long as it doesn't lead to any sort of sex or nudity.
Sex is best if you at the very least have a good friendship established.
Gay men and men tend to compartmentalize emotion and sex. To me they go together. Those types of men who "compartmentalize" are least likely to be good relationship partners. Unconsciously they will only be in it for sex and then ditch you and the relationship when the sex gets old. They never learned how enriching a relationship with someone is, even if it is only a friendship. They also will most likely never learn how nor stop treating people as objects.
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I have a few friends who go to Bars and are always picking up women.
One friend will pick up a different woman every Friday night. If he goes to a bar and does not pick up a woman that night he will feel like a failure. The funny thing is he sees the same people in the bar every weekend. If he sees someone he had picked up before he will act like they are invisible and he is only interested in someone he has not met before.
I ask him if he is ill at ease being so close physically and emotionally with someone he has never met. We all know how hard it is to talk to people we do not know well. Then it should be so much more difficult having sexual and romantic relations with someone who we do not really know.
Are you ill at ease the first time you try to get sexual or romantic with someone new?
Those types of men who "compartmentalize" are least likely to be good relationship partners. Unconsciously they will only be in it for sex and then ditch you and the relationship when the sex gets old. They never learned how enriching a relationship with someone is, even if it is only a friendship. They also will most likely never learn how nor stop treating people as objects.
I have to disagree. I mess around when I'm single, but if I'm involved I treat the guy with the utmost respect and love. Usually it's just a makeout session, but ocassionaly it's a back to my place scenario. Not objectifying anyone, just two guys enjoying one another's company.
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