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But how do you know if the person feels objectified or not?
I've felt like crap by guys before who thoought that they were being nice to me and not objectifying.
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Originally Posted by victorytampa
I have to disagree. I mess around when I'm single, but if I'm involved I treat the guy with the utmost respect and love. Usually it's just a makeout session, but ocassionaly it's a back to my place scenario. Not objectifying anyone, just two guys enjoying one another's company.
But how do you know if the person feels objectified or not?
I've felt like crap by guys before who thoought that they were being nice to me and not objectifying.
It's how they approach you. I've made the mistake in the past of one night standing with someone who clearly wanted more and I felt horrible about it. Now, the only time that happens is if the guy is very clear that he's just looking for fun.
In reality though, I'm over that. I just want to meet a nice guy and date, etc. Unfortunately, I'm becoming more and more convinced that the nice guys already have boyfriends and at 32 I might as well resign myself to being single. That's one bad thing that comes from playing around. By the time you're over it and ready to look into the possiblity of a serious relationship it's hard to find guys that aren't arleady taken
I one night standed and wanted a friendship and the person was really irritated because I kept asking him to keep in contact with me during the sexual encounter. He refused to say yes or no and kept saying maybe. So I kept asking. After never hearing back from him I got extremely pist off.
Of course later I spread nasty rumors about him to all his friends and gays in the community that he has stds including the big one ...do u think that was mean and hurtful LMAO?
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Originally Posted by victorytampa
It's how they approach you. I've made the mistake in the past of one night standing with someone who clearly wanted more and I felt horrible about it. Now, the only time that happens is if the guy is very clear that he's just looking for fun.
In reality though, I'm over that. I just want to meet a nice guy and date, etc. Unfortunately, I'm becoming more and more convinced that the nice guys already have boyfriends and at 32 I might as well resign myself to being single. That's one bad thing that comes from playing around. By the time you're over it and ready to look into the possiblity of a serious relationship it's hard to find guys that aren't arleady taken
I don't think you can say "men are like this, and women like that". I'm a 30 yr old man and I've only had 1 casual encounter - but it turned into a weeklong fling so I've never had a one night stand. For me, that first encounter was awkward. The sex was frequent, but it wasn't as hot as the sex I've had in relationships. I really couldn't imagine picking up a woman in a bar.... that's not to say I won't try it sometime and find out how wrong I am. And I gather from this thread that some women really enjoy that type of encounter. Everyone's different.
I one night standed and wanted a friendship and the person was really irritated because I kept asking him to keep in contact with me during the sexual encounter. He refused to say yes or no and kept saying maybe. So I kept asking. After never hearing back from him I got extremely pist off.
Of course later I spread nasty rumors about him to all his friends and gays in the community that he has stds including the big one ...do u think that was mean and hurtful LMAO?
I am a guy and I think spreading rumors, especially the last one you mention, was not only nasty, but rather immature.
Of course later I spread nasty rumors about him to all his friends and gays in the community that he has stds including the big one ...do u think that was mean and hurtful LMAO?
I one night standed and wanted a friendship and the person was really irritated because I kept asking him to keep in contact with me during the sexual encounter. He refused to say yes or no and kept saying maybe. So I kept asking. After never hearing back from him I got extremely pist off.
Of course later I spread nasty rumors about him to all his friends and gays in the community that he has stds including the big one ...do u think that was mean and hurtful LMAO?
Artsyguy, no offense intended.. but are you for real? This sounds like something someone would come up with just to add fuel to the fire, to stir things up to make people mad or use a lot of caps and angry smiley faces at you or something...
CD Land has seen its fair share of trolls.
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