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I don't know what's worse, the type of guys that harass women like that, or the kind of women that equate any sort of public interaction from a male as a come-on. It's reason enough to not talk to anyone about anything in public. When I was going to school, I took the bus for a while. One time at the stop I asked some girl for the time -she obviously had a watch- then she somehow got around to the irrelevant fact that her boyfriend was picking her up. LOL, get over yourself, missy. That was the furthest thing from my mind. While obviously in many cases it will be true, they're ridiculous for thinking any form of communication means a guy is trying to "chat them up". No, sometimes it's just awkward to stand around in the same spot for several minutes and not say a word, but let it be awkward; maybe I'll burp instead. Because what's next, you talk to some dude and you're being gay?
With that said, I've had drunk laughing girls heckle me from a car while I was going into a convenience store. They were like asking if I wanted a ride. I stopped and asked can I join the party instead. They got scared and left.
Personally, I don't see the situation the OP described as rejection, more of a personal safety response. If complete strangers start harrassing me, my first instinct, and rightly so, is for my personal safety. My mind goes straight to: make sure windows rolled up, ready to pull into a very public place, ready to dial 911 etc. etc.
In OPs case it sounds like she was alone in her vehicle, and there were two or more guys in the other vehicle. I don't personally have any male friends who would do what they did. Most would know it would frighten a woman nowadays. No normal guy wants to do things they know will make a girl scared.
I think of rejection more as a guy asking a girl out or vice versa and they get turned down.
Girls are not obligated to speak to every guy that approaches them, so Why do some men feel that it is OK to call girls names just cause the girls dont want to talk to them?
AMENNNNN! PREACH IT SISTER!
I've been saying this for years, esp. my sister, who says it embarrasses her when I don't respond to men on the street even if they're being "nice". That's because I'm under no obligation to entertain every Tom, Dick and Harry who wants to stop me, and if they or anyone else has a problem with it, it's their issue. Sometimes you'd respond and if it wasn't what they wanted or you didn't talk to them long enough you'd solicit an even more negative response. I just don't have time for the drama. I'm trying to get where I'm going with no interruptions.
When I was going to school, I took the bus for a while. One time at the stop I asked some girl for the time -she obviously had a watch- then she somehow got around to the irrelevant fact that her boyfriend was picking her up. LOL, get over yourself, missy. That was the furthest thing from my mind.
Put your bruised ego aside and look at the facts. A lot of women (because of prior bad experiences) view strange men approaching when they are by themselves for any reason a possible threat. And in many places at many times, their fear has a ton of merit. Don't automatically assume she thought she was the bees' knees because she finds a stranger approaching her when she is by herself intimidating.
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Put your bruised ego aside and look at the facts. A lot of women (because of prior bad experiences) view strange men approaching when they are by themselves for any reason a possible threat. And in many places at many times, their fear has a ton of merit. Don't automatically assume she thought she was bees knees because she finds a stranger approaching her when she is by herself intimidating.
That, plus...I don't think it's too crazy to think that people of the opposite sex yelling "Hey! Look over here!" and waving wildly at your car could possibly indicate interest. I mean...come on.
I was driving yesterday and was sitting at a red light when 2 men pull up on the side of me and tried to get my attention. I pretty much ignored them, because i didnt like their approach. They said "hey there, look, over here, hey, hello". They had no sense of conversation. Since i wasnt in the mood to talk to some random guys and they were being immature in my opinion, i ignored them.
Anyway, so when the light went green, and both of our cars drove along, both the men screamed out f**k you Sl*t and sped up.
Now this isnt the first time i have or other girls i know have been called names from a guy just because you didnt want to talk to them.
I ask, Why can a guys attitude change in a second just cause he didnt get his way? Girls are not obligated to speak to every guy that approaches them, so Why do some men feel that it is OK to call girls names just cause the girls dont want to talk to them?
Some men are childish. Some men are just plain stupid. The men you encountered were both of these. I think OngletNYC has the right idea, turn your head acknowledge they are there, knod your head a bit and go on your merry way. If they persist, then I would ignore them.
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