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Not really. People who have children will get at least some help if not physical care from their adult children. They can hire someone to help them, take a few hours a week to step up and do what they can to help. The more children a senior has the more help they are likely to receive. ie, my mother had her adult children and a grandaughter not often but she helped too. All of her children did what they could until it got to the point where she needed more special care. It was really necessary when she had surgery too. Someone without children will not have that without a boat load of money to pay strangers. Although in some States, Counties there are resources for seniors that help but it's minimal. Like those meals delivered for seniors and disabled in low income.
OP I agree but they still should Love their parents to do some help. Unfortunately there are so many adult children who move so far away it's impossible to be there for Mom or Pop when they fall ill.
We have a lot of residents whose kids live in other states. You seem to be assuming children graduate college and start careers in the same states or geographic region they grew up in.
I was watching a video recently where an expert was giving advice to adult children who were trying to help their parents downsize.
The expert kept saying how important it was for the adult child to remain calm and not push their parents. Take time, don't demand for things to get done today, etc. The belongings represent their parents entire lives and blah, blah, blah.
I kept thinking "Who the heck has time for that?" It's hard enough to get your own house decluttered and organized and then to have to go over to an elderly parent's house and calmly cajole them into allowing you to help them get rid of things.....give them time to "say goodbye" to each little piece of junk that they probably didn't even realize that they even had because it was buried under boxes in the garage....
Sorry. The "Adult Children" have lives, wants and needs, too. My mom did an amazing job of getting rid of things and downsizing. Even so, getting her moved and settled into a new place was work. I can't imagine having to deal with an argumentative parent who dragged their feet and tantrumed over something being done for their benefit.
We need to do this stuff for ourselves and stop relying on "the kids" or "society" to do it for us.
Every time my mom was in the hospital or rehab, I'd go over and toss stuff. She had large cardboard boxes with checks from banks that had been defunct for decades, and a lot of other stuff that served no purpose, but she had hoarding tendencies. She never knew I threw anything out.
We have a lot of residents whose kids live in other states. You seem to be assuming children graduate college and start careers in the same states or geographic region they grew up in.
It seems that you're assuming help has to be provided in person. It can be financial support, which can easily be done remotely. It can be emotional support, via regular phone calls. It can be material support, like sending new slippers for birthdays, flowers for Mother's Day, cookies for Christmas.
As minimal as you may believe these are, they are things childless people don't have, which is the whole point of this thread.
It seems that you're assuming help has to be provided in person. It can be financial support, which can easily be done remotely. It can be emotional support, via regular phone calls. It can be material support, like sending new slippers for birthdays, flowers for Mother's Day, cookies for Christmas.
As minimal as you may believe these are, they are things childless people don't have, which is the whole point of this thread.
I suppose if you have no children and you want someone to send you slippers, then you would need to foster relationships with other relatives and/or younger friends.
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