Where do the hot girls live in the Bay Area ?? (Los Angeles: assess, moving to)

[FC76-81]

Originally Posted by 18Montclair

Hahaha someone's been watching a few too many movies.

What I find most distressing nice again, is guys who have the nerve to say that an entire segment of women are generally not good looking.

I personally think that many men are unwilling to admit they are intimidated by a woman that has a good, high paying, prestigious job.

So instead they blame the physical appearance of the women and what they characterize as a frigid disposition for men for their difficulty in having a successful relationship.

When really, most girls I know want to be swept off their feet.

Maybe some guys may feel this way. I'm not one of them though. I look at the woman's personality first, well actually first I look at personal hygiene and then if she passes that one, I move on to her personality. I think it's a plus that a woman has a good job and is established. I've gone out with both, ones that have nothing and ones that have jobs, money, etc. Bottom line is I'd rather go out with a chick who doesn't have a job and/or money but treats me with kindness, honesty and sincerity over a chick that has a high paying job and money but treats me like trash. Most women I know in the corporate world who have jobs, positions of authority and who can high and/or fire at will usually look for someone as mean or meaner then they are. I'm not into that myself but I'm sure there are others out there who are.

[Dave Coe]

Originally Posted by Bisaro TMF

6.2% of a population being gay is nothing. Not enough to say the city has too many gay people to find a strait partner. There's more Blacks than Gays in SF which is saying a lot considering most of the Blacks moved out the city.

Yes, it's small minority but it's still the highest. Nation wide about 2% of people are openly gay but the number could be higher if count bisexuals and closet cases. Gays are not really a big deal because there numbers stay the some for most part. There's no threat of gays taking over by outbreading straights.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by scirocco

SF is truly full of the following type of lady :

Career minded and always will be , though she is having some doubts as time goes by. She liked it in College where the refuge of socially conscious clubs and gatherings helped keep her mind off prosaic activities such as dating or meeting guys. Time goes by things change for the worse. The closeness of sisterhood is threatened as one by one, her female friends start to break ranks and date a guy. Qsts inevitably arise about what is she doing with this type of guy. My word he ate a hamburger and watched a football game , was that the Superbowl? Oh my goodness , what is happened around us ?
Her friends all talk about time to bite the bullet and get to get their man. Sigh. But how can you do such a thing she asks?. Shock panic as she starts to see so many career minded girls all in the hunt for a guy. The table has turned and now she has to fend off suggestions that she might be gay. Clever hints from learned ladies all knowing how to place a seed well to grow. Hmmm, she wonders to herself as to whether she is missing out. Best bet, research to see how other single ladies approach the loneliness bug by reading hip accounts of same in large metro areas. Good thing as it keeps her mind off her present state and she can now free her mind to imagine life as a young single artist in Sweet Paris. Just like college she reminds herself , as she pulls out her favorite book on Proust. She feels better now.

Next day, she has a dinner with some female friends and the subject of guys comes up. A feeling of insecurity comes about her and she is quick to respond, just like what makes her efficient in her job as development officer for medium accounts at whatever.com. The girls with the guys, now can talk at will about taking care of their man , and he being like a big baby. She skillfully disguises her outright horror and wishes she could say outright how much of a bleepin hypocrite each of her friends has become. One even has the sheer audacity to mention her bf , who happens to like only grass fed beef now. WTF! They are all traitors . She goes home and the first rumblings of the deep need for intimacy with a guy start to distract her mind. The coldness of being alone at night and always alone make her put her head in her hands and cry a little. She then pulls herself together and affirms she will try to fill the emptiness in her whole life.

The years have passed and now she is getting older and she knows it. I just wish many guys would know about ancient hindu belly dancing in SE India, she then would be satisfied. Men are so ignorant and have no feelings. She goes outside and sees a couple with a new born child out walking. No no no , do not look at that couple with their baby again, she warns herself and just imagine the world , those two overdoing it with the handholding, are bringing the child into. She feels better again.

Might try some online dating, she decides for the heck of it. There was that one guy, but he seemed more interested in looking at young tarty chicks that passed by our table at the bar. Oh men. She goes home , and this time cries her eyes out and announces she does not care anymore. She is now hitting 30 or 40 and the alarm bells are already sounding.
Two options are available to her:
1. Mellow and work on the bitterness
2. Become more sad and disgruntled to the day she dies

That about sums up the "SF" girl for you. There are quite literally countless numbers of women here the same as the above. For many, there never was the deep felt need for intimacy in the first place. It is all going through the motions so as to fit in. They are good at it. Most of their jobs require a fair degree of interoffice politics anyways. There is certain type of woman who in general comes to SF. Usually well educated, good income women, not very attractive (sorry, but it is true, go elsewhere and see) and eventually resigning themselves to a life of yoga and vegan bites at the eastern prayer and spirit center. That part of the brain which covers basic needs for human interaction, coupling and being with a significant other, has been closed off. In its place is an awkward, trite and humorless soul.

She goes home and places her head in her hands and cries.

We get it, dude; your relationship didn't work out. But that has nothing to do with the women in SF. You said yourself, your ex (this seems to be about an ex) had a batch of gf's who all got married, which defines her as an outlier. Meaning: most of the career women in SF are just like the career women anywhere else; they're marrying career guys. Your story contradicts the opening sentence. Way to go.

[scirocco]

Originally Posted by 18Montclair

Hahaha someone's been watching a few too many movies.

What I find most distressing nice again, is guys who have the nerve to say that an entire segment of women are generally not good looking.

I personally think that many men are unwilling to admit they are intimidated by a woman that has a good, high paying, prestigious job.

So instead they blame the physical appearance of the women and what they characterize as a frigid disposition for men for their difficulty in having a successful relationship.

When really, most girls I know want to be swept off their feet.

Maybe the makings of a documentary perhaps. Far too close to reality for a movie.

I have dated and still date successful career minded women who happen to be less physically attractive than girls elsewhere. Par for the course with SF. Though it has be said, one can see so many recently enlightened women i.e those who want a man badly but really have not developed the skills to do so, in many places such as the local Safeway etc. They are there alright just so insecure about themselves. Guys feel it too about them. Again the lack of confidence shines through and above all else a sense of fun. The antithesis to the naturally flirtatious nature of a cute French lady I once met working in a SF deli. It was like a revelation in fact. So natural and proud of her femininity. We guys notice these things.

The job stuff and the money thing don't factor in at all. For what most of you ladies sacrifice in the past present and future to get ahead in the corporate sense , far exceeds the rewards of a decent paying job. Men are not intimidated by a woman with a high paying job . No. The escort industry and others have some women making a heck of a lot of money. Far more than your average project mgr with nameupaname.com. for instance. So, obviously guys here of all stripes are not put off in the slightest by a high earning woman. Lets move on.

When you say most girls just want to be swept off their feet. Probably better for them in a different environment than SF. The biggest challenge for women here is being a woman and enjoying love and affection, and also playing the PC card too much, which lessens their chances of meeting decent guys. The dualism will give a most awful headache. Wait , I have some ancient hindu dried frog saliva that my gf , well we not actually gay , just dropped off.

Over and over, the same holds through. So many shy sweethearts just wishing to be themselves , but finding it hard to do so in SF. Many will leave after a few years and lose any chance or hope of meeting any guy then. They thought that men would be entirely different here. Not really.

So there you have it. Such a shame to see so many girls missing out through absurd PCism and excessive feminism. The time frame for meeting a guy to settle with is quite short. The biological clock is running and the ominous number 40 beckons. How a single woman hitting 40 deals with it is another post entirely for another day.

[scirocco]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

We get it, dude; your relationship didn't work out. But that has nothing to do with the women in SF. You said yourself, your ex (this seems to be about an ex) had a batch of gf's who all got married, which defines her as an outlier. Meaning: most of the career women in SF are just like the career women anywhere else; they're marrying career guys. Your story contradicts the opening sentence. Way to go.

Don't make assumptions, you know the rest. .............you just scuppered all chances at credibility with the opening remark.

Wow, a judgmental and condescending tone to boot. You must be a joy to behold . sic

"Career minded and always will be , though she is having some doubts as time goes by". The story underlines exactly how many working girls feel about their commitment to career , then with time , the doubts creep in. Did it hit a nerve perhaps?.....It sure sounded like it did.

For the dude mentioning about looking for personality over looks. Well fact is mate , most guys do in fact look for same. A superhot airhead with little to no brain is last on the list. We all know that?.

[WizardOfRadical]

Scirocco for President. For real.

[Bisaro TMF]

Originally Posted by Dave Coe

Yes, it's small minority but it's still the highest. Nation wide about 2% of people are openly gay but the number could be higher if count bisexuals and closet cases. Gays are not really a big deal because there numbers stay the some for most part. There's no threat of gays taking over by outbreading straights.

No doubt, my point was at least 90% of the population in SF is NOT gay so to say there are too many gays to find a wife/GF/BF/FWB etc is ludicrous.

[BayAreaHillbilly]

Away from the concentrated Tech Bro zones things are still pretty good.

Plenty of eye candy.

[Dave Coe]

Originally Posted by BayAreaHillbilly

Away from the concentrated Tech Bro zones things are still pretty good.

Plenty of eye candy.

I can't speak about dating since I haven't lived in the Bay Area but have visited many times. Howeverb there is plenty of eye candy. SF itself has tons tourist from all over the world who add to that. Plenty of attractive women in their mid to late 20s in SF but very few white girls in their teens and early 20s. The only place I noticed younger white girls were Los Gatos and Walnut Creek. Even some hot Eurasian girls as well.

[lovesf2016]

Originally Posted by Dave Coe

I can't speak about dating since I haven't lived in the Bay Area but have visited many times.

If you don't live here (in SF Bay Area), where do you live? Why are you posting here so often?

Just curious not an instigation.