Need help, strong possibility that employee hitting wife (work, pay, business)

[Humble and Kind]

If in wrong place, please move to correct place. Thank you!


It has come to my attention that an employee(male) has hit his wife and it has been noticed by others also. The people that can tell are women, some of them have been in the same situation. "We could tell", "I could tell it's been happening". Both of these have been told to me today.

They also told me not to say anything as it will make it worse for her.

How can I help? How do I approach him about this?

[ClaraC]

I would absolutely demand more information than "we could tell" from formerly abused women before taking any action whatsoever.

[Humble and Kind]

I agree with you both. I have NO evidence. It had come up before, but not like this.

I don't know how to approach him or ease into a subject like that.

I do have a friend who is a counselor that I can call, but she is out till next week.

[mochamajesty]

I am confused. Does the wife work for you?

[Fox Terrier]

Originally Posted by Humble and Kind

If in wrong place, please move to correct place. Thank you!


It has come to my attention that an employee(male) has hit his wife and it has been noticed by others also. The people that can tell are women, some of them have been in the same situation. "We could tell", "I could tell it's been happening". Both of these have been told to me today.

They also told me not to say anything as it will make it worse for her.

How can I help? How do I approach him about this?

take the advice of your coworkers. if you say something to him he will deny it, then go home, accuse his wife of 'lying' to people and beat her up for 'lying'.

of course that's if he really does hit her.

IOW, there's really nothing you can do or say. it's up to his wife to stay or go.

signed,
a woman who got out of a 15-year-long abusive relationship.

[purehuman]

Fox Terrier is right.
The only way to help would be to make the wife aware of resources that would help her to get away....after that it's her choice, if she has the strength and courage to do so.
Saying anything to the man will make him angry...and we all know who'll pay the price?

[Humble and Kind]

I was afraid that was the answer, nothing I can do it's up to her.

So very sorry to hear you went through that, Fox.

Thank you all for the help. Send prayers for all those that are living through such a situation.

[HokieFan]

Originally Posted by Humble and Kind

I don't know how to approach him or ease into a subject like that.

You don't.

It is up to his wife to leave him. When/if she does, hopefully, she has friends and family to support and encourage her. This is none of your concern.

[Humble and Kind]

Originally Posted by mochamajesty

I am confused. Does the wife work for you?

No, her husband. A local business brought it to my attention. She was also abused in her previous marriage.

[Missy2U]

As others have said, there is nothing you can do. Unless you count being there for her and helping her out with whatever help she might be request when this goes South and she's had enough as support.