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GF thinks I'm making a big deal about this. So I'm curious what you think.
GF's sister will be house-sitting for 2 nights and just told us that a guy she's seen a few times will be over at our house for dinner while we're out of town. That probably means he's spending the night over and sleeping in our bed since they've had sex before.
I don't like it because it's some strange guy in my house with all my stuff/papers/etc. there, not to mention sleeping in my bed/sheets.
Do you think my GF is right that it's no big deal? She said I'm acting "crazy" for caring about this.
Btw, I never confronted the sister about this - just mentioned to my GF.
I wouldn't have a problem with my girlfriends sister, but I'd definitely not want some strange guy (she's only seen a few times) in my house...NO WAY, and I'd tell the house-sitter that as well, if it was too hard for me to speak my feelings I would just tell the woman that you no longer require her to house sit...BTW you are not acting silly to be concerned, you don't even know this guy!, your girlfriend is being thoughtless and irresponsible towards you asking this of you.
You know, a house really doesn't need a "housesitter" for two days, generally you can just lock the door and go off and enjoy you weekend. Very few plants need water every single day.
I agree that you probably don't need a housesitter for two days, but you could invite the sister and the boyfriend over for dinner to at least meet him and lay out your expectations.
Sorry, but that says a lot about your girlfriend. She should respect your feelings. It's your home, too. If she wants to put her things at risk, that's one thing, but she's being awfully cavalier about your concerns regarding your papers and possessions. I would have a problem with that if I were you.
This is your home, and if you are not comfortable with this then you need to make it clear he cannot stay over. I would not allow that if it were me. I mean you don't have a clue who this guy is or his background, but the idea is anyway that SHE is supposed to be watching the house, not her and her boyfriend. I do not think you are making a big deal of this.
I lost ALL my personal possessions, collectibles, and even family photos when my girlfriends' sister house sat (without my knowledge) and was accompanied by her new "friend".
I spent a few years tracking this guy, and in Los Angeles I was always a few weeks behind him and his mother. Nothing was of real value, but my grandpa's and fathers Canadian coins went with the clothing and toaster.
Just make sure you can find this guy if need be.
Last edited by thedwightguy; 10-19-2012 at 08:50 AM..
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I'd also like to know why you need a housesitter for 2 nights? Just lock the door - it will be okay. 2 nights is not worth the stress you're feeling already knowing some strange guy will be in your house.
I'd be so mad if I were you - I'd have a big problem with a stranger in my house. Not to mention my SO telling me it's no big deal. I'm sure she is just thinking about how she trusts her sister, so it shouldn't be an issue, but it IS an issue - no matter how much she trusts her sister, there's still some stranger you don't even know staying in your house without you gone! Honestly, you should put your foot down and tell both your GF and her sister that it won't fly. I still think you should just forget the housesitting deal altogether...
Next time you go out of town ask one of your buddies (preferably one with a reputation for dating "skanky" women) to house sit for you. Just remember to burn the sheets when you return.
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