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I like it too. I learned recently that there have been cases of people literally making a federal case out of it. It's that feminist liberalism affecting people's emotions. They see it as some type of disrespect towards ones gender. There are many colleges now that forbid people from using such language.
It's all about context. If they are doing it just to be nice and you're offended then you're the one with the problem not them. And I do mean that in a general sense not towards you directly.
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Heard this all the time when I lived in Kentucky. Definitely a south thing. Never liked it. Glad I live in a more "Yankee" area like Northern VA where I rarely hear it.
So many threads on this already, OP did you do a search before starting this one?
My previous response in these threads still stands: yes, I live in the south and yes I'm older than dirt, and yes this is a common problem, and no, there's no excuse for medical so-called professionals to whom I pay megabucks to not call me by name when they have my file in front of them. It's not friendly, it's not nice, it's not cordial or polite, it's demeaning as hell. The very next time a dental hygienist calls me sweetie, I'm calling her sugarpussy.
Actually, it happens up here in the north, in Maine as well...though the most common term is "dear" (usually pronounced "dee-ahh").
It's a custom, a habit, a 'politeness' that most people who do it would have no clue that someone might find it offensive, and taking offense to it and getting angry over it will in no way reduce the usage (in general). Although putting on a display about being offended by it, making a stink over it *could* cause some individuals to stop using it with you (and they might be shocked and genuinely apologetic), it could just as easily result in *their* being offended, thinking you "stuck-up" and causing them to dislike you.
I think that people who get 'offended' at this sort of pleasantry are wound-up just a little too tightly. It doesn't bother me at all.
Its so southern! When I moved to the south and heard it, I was like ??? I seriously didn't understand it. I have gotten used to it, but if a man says it to me in a slightly condescending tone...watch out.
Well, I would have to say that it sure is an improvement on "Idiot, azzhole, goofball, etc." I can't in my wildest imagination, understand why being addressed in such a manner as the OP suggests would amount to anything at all. For those who are bothered by such an address I have one thing to say! "Get a life".
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I like it too. I learned recently that there have been cases of people literally making a federal case out of it. It's that feminist liberalism affecting people's emotions. They see it as some type of disrespect towards ones gender. There are many colleges now that forbid people from using such language.
It's all about context. If they are doing it just to be nice and you're offended then you're the one with the problem not them. And I do mean that in a general sense not towards you directly.
With what I've bolded you've removed all credibility from yourself.
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Since I never got that as a child...no words of endearment...
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neither did I. When I learned it was a Southern thing then it didn't bother me
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