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I had a kid make some comments about my weight once at a store. I looked directly at the mom and said what a wonderful person your son was raised by they must be truly gifted with smarts and manners. the woman turned bright red and didn't say a word.
I had a kid make some comments about my weight once at a store. I looked directly at the mom and said what a wonderful person your son was raised by they must be truly gifted with smarts and manners. the woman turned bright red and didn't say a word.
I just got in from the water park and noticed two disturbing incidents of relatively young kids (probably under 10) poking fun of fat adults on the lazy river to their face. While kids will often just blurt something out, the parents didn't seem to correct the kids. Had I said something like that, my mother would have been after me!
Would you discipline your child for publicly insulting a fat person?
I have disciplined both of my kids for less, future leaders, lead by example. There is no half way.
If that's a concern, have the kid write a letter of apology that they think that person will receive. Then don't give it to the person.
It'll teach the kid to make amends for their actions without embarrassing the person in question.
How does that work in a situation such as the OP, or really, any case where it's a stranger? Not everybody who responded thought the apology was cause for further embarrassment. And, I just don't see how a face-to-face apology is equal to a taunt yelled out loud.
How does that work in a situation such as the OP, or really, any case where it's a stranger? Not everybody who responded thought the apology was cause for further embarrassment. And, I just don't see how a face-to-face apology is equal to a taunt yelled out loud.
It's been explained several times. I believe your previously held perception of apologies is preventing you from understanding another point of view.
I would not shame a kid for speaking the truth. THAT would be wrong.
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Originally Posted by ScarletG
So you'd have no problem with someone pointing at you and saying "look at that heartless and ill-mannered loud mouth"?
I was thinking more along the lines of "Hey Mom, Look at that Rude, Stupid Jerk! I can't believe that he just said..."
to the girl in the wheelchair, or the elderly man, or the disabled war veteran, or the child with Down Syndrome, or the bald woman on chemotherapy or to you.
Last edited by germaine2626; 06-18-2015 at 05:42 PM..
Id also correct my kid in public and apologize. The insults were meant to publicly embarrass, and so would my correction of my kid. It would also add credibility to my apology. To do less would be enabling bad behavior I think.
People who think "kids will be kids", usually only think that as long as their kids are the offenders.
And, as I said, the ability to graciously accept an apology is as important as the ability to offer one.
I was responding to another poster btw. You never did answer whether or not you ever directed a child to apologize.
Do you know what heavy people put up with? I've been skinny...I've been heavy and back again.....and being fat shamed is not exactly the same as being bumped into or having your toe stepped on.
You are showing a complete disregard for the victim here.
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