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You don't have to accept the apology, you can turn on your heels and walk away. It seems counter-productive though. Why wouldn't you recognize the parent is attempting teach their child that when you wrong somebody, an apology is expected?
How it counter-productive?
Why should I have to be further humiliated in public?
I have made it a point to teach my children from a very young age that it is NEVER ok to make fun of someone's appearance. Ever. And we've never had an issue.
I truly don't get this. How is an apology humiliating?
It draws further attention to something that is already embarrassing. When a kid is forced to do it its rarely genuine and more about the parent than the target of the unkind remark.
It draws further attention to something that is already embarrassing. When a kid is forced to do it its rarely genuine and more about the parent than the target of the unkind remark.
And to me, having nothing done is even more embarrassing. But, to each his/her own I guess.
I truly don't get this. How is an apology humiliating?
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Originally Posted by tlvancouver
It draws further attention to something that is already embarrassing. When a kid is forced to do it its rarely genuine and more about the parent than the target of the unkind remark.
That is exactly it tlvancouver. As I said, I'm not here to be someone's Afterschool Special or learning experience. I want to live my life and be left alone.
That is exactly it tlvancouver. As I said, I'm not here to be someone's Afterschool Special or learning experience. I want to live my life and be left alone.
This is low self esteem at it's finest.
It's not about being an Afterschool Special.
My thought on this is that I am a human being and when a wrong has been done to me, I deserve and demand that it be made right. I am worth that. So are you. But, if you don't think so what can we do?
And we are all a learning experience for kids just by being out in public with them. Isn't that how you learned things?
My thought on this is that I am a human being and when a wrong has been done to me, I deserve and demand that it be made right. I am worth that. So are you. But, if you don't think so what can we do?
And we are all a learning experience for kids just by being out in public with them. Isn't that how you learned things?
Kids are taught at PRESCHOOL and sometimes they still say dumb ****.
Yeah like when I took my kids on a cruise to Vietnam and China and my 11 year old said "why are there so many Asians here" in the loudest voice you've ever heard.
Fat Shaming is CRUEL and unnecessary and the child is usually repeating what he's heard from adults.
I am not responsible for the health of other people. I am only responsible for my kids growing up healthy and strong, including physical strength and fitness. If they correctly identify fatness as a bad, undesirable trait that people should be ashamed of, it is only a good thing. Now, if they pointed to someone fat and said: "wow, how pretty, I want to look like her!" - that would be cause for punishment. However, that is unlikely to happen. Most kids have good genetic instinct, unless conditioned otherwise. And I intend to give every kind of good example to my children, both in healthy eating and in sport.
Disabilities - that is an entire different matter. You never know if that guy who is lacking a leg is a world class sportsman who lost his leg while climbing the Everest. That is strength. Fatness is not.
I hope you are not serious, but, unfortunately, I think you are.
The fact is that some people are fat because they truly cannot help it -- although I do think that probably at least 95% of overweight people are overweight because of poor diet and not enough exercise. Even if there are only a very few exceptions (like .0001%), that still would mean that not everyone is fat because of poor diet or exercise.
And if you truly would PUNISH your child for saying a fat person is pretty, I would think that you are a very bad parent.
(Btw, I am a healthy weight, not that that has anything to do with my opinion.)
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