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The mother called me, an acquaintance of my sister. Her daughter had graduated in May and was having a hard time finding a job. So she asked me to talk to her, given how she majored in a related field. Mind you, I'm not hiring, but I might know someone who would be.
The mother calls me back, to set up the interview time and place. I knew I would be between meetings this morning, so I suggested a convenient coffee shop in transit.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
Everyone is a "child" of someone.
Using your rationale, no adult would ever help another adult network.
An adult, the parent, was helping out another adult, the daughter, who just graduated.
Just to keep it simple, there are parents who have high expectations for their children, like showing up to interviews on time that were set up by the parents. I don't think having high expectations is being mean to a child. Having low expectations is not being nice to a child. I think it shows a lack of self respect from the parent.
I think in general, I agree with the OP and everyone here.
This is just sad to me. I started calling in for everything I could at 16, since my mom did a wonderful job at embarrassing me everytime she called for something. Doctors appointments, dentist appointment, job interviews. Everything I could call for myself, I did.
That woman sounds like a parent who really raised her kid to just do great in school, no personal responsibility, and probably gets everything her little heart desires and more just because. But that's my opinion and I could be wrong.
Edit: Should probably add that I'm 19 and moved out as soon as I graduated. Couldn't stay in the city long, I wasn't finding work and hated the community college, and the city tbh, with a burning passion.
I don't wait 45 minutes for anyone! If you can't be bothered to be on time, then whatever we were scheduled to do clearly isn't important to you. You're lucky if I give you 15 minutes. Normally, I'll wait 10 minutes so I can say I did wait.
There came a time in my professional career where I realized the torch needed handed onwards. I encouraged more then discouraged those showing teachability and reliability.
This was something that came naturally after awhile.
For the Op, I sincerely commend you for offering the guidance. The student was not ready. It happens.
I am now on the other end of job hunting .. So with some bias.., the resume' and being timely and put together, hasn't done a hill of beans to nab that job. I follow with sincere enthusiasm and interest in the company. Yet the door closes quickly. So as much as doing an interview may have given this young lady a taste of what it takes to nail a job. I can't rightly say that she'll do any better , late or resume' in hand.
I don't actually see this as a parenting issue. Rude entitled people, trying to get favors for other rude, entitled people. I see it all the time. This see two just happened to be parentA-child.
I think the young lady should just get married. Why does she need to work at all? Maybe she wasn't college material. Obviously, she's not employment material.
Not everybody can do everything. I haven't seen too many young ladies who couldn't do well being housewives. That's all some of them are capable of.
I know, sounds hopelessly old fashioned. But some things from the old days just worked out better, with less hassle for all parties involved. You can put lipstick on a pig, but you still can't expect it to fly.
I think the young lady should just get married. Why does she need to work at all? Maybe she wasn't college material. Obviously, she's not employment material.
Not everybody can do everything. I haven't seen too many young ladies who couldn't do well being housewives. That's all some of them are capable of.
I know, sounds hopelessly old fashioned. But some things from the old days just worked out better, with less hassle for all parties involved. You can put lipstick on a pig, but you still can't expect it to fly.
Actually DO be helpful. If sis says anything to you, tell her that you could not forward her name to anyone without damaging your reputation and that she can learn from this experience why she is having a hard time finding a job.
I third this.
The girl needs to learn an important lesson and apparently her mother needs to as well.
Kids feel entitled these days.
A person I know is on his 8th year at Devry trying to get an MBA paid for by his parents...37 years old and making $15 an hour. Parents paid for everything: car, wedding, education.
I grew up dirt poor, had nothing, was making big bucks before graduating college while I worked full time and went to school full time on student loans.
Now I make 154K from my job alone, not counting my investments, and am paying for my MBA in cash, even though I had it harder than all of my friends combined...
Ironic that he will get an MBA...Eventually. Thing is, in his case it doesn't mean anything...
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