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Eh, it’s a bit of micromanaging at 15. You don’t manage every aspect of your child’s life until they are 17 years and 364 days old and then turn over the reigns the next day. It’s a gradual letting-go. At 17, the kid should be able to decide that they are going to spend a few hours with a boy/girlfriend. At 12, no. At 15, it’s a bit wishy-washy. I’d lean toward having the friend over to our house if the other parent agreed. I do understand that this is a case that’s outside the norm because the romantic interest is only 12. I’m speaking more in generalities.
The fastest route to poverty is having a child when very young and single, and not finishing your education.
I don't believe anyone disputes that. Spending a few hours, completely supervised, at the home of a friend or bf/gf does not cause pregnancy. At least last time I checked. It is possible to welcome a child's friend into your home without gushing/planning the wedding.
I do understand that this is a case that’s outside the norm because the romantic interest is only 12. I'm speaking more in generalities.
And because the 12-year-old spoke of a previous sexual "relationship" with an even older teen, which of course would have been child molestation, and because the last time the 12-year-old was at the OP's house, he sat in her son's lap, rested his head on his shoulder, and whispered in his ear the whole time they sat there.
Generalities don't really apply to this situation.
Welcome the young lady into your celebration and allow your young man to attend hers.
Your son is entering a new phase in his journey to adulthood. There are going to be lots of "shared" holidays in his future and your disapproval will not be good.
While I wouldn't want him to be MIA for the entire day, I see no reason why he can't spend a couple of hours with her and her family. Why would you deny him the opportunity to share the celebration?
She may not be important to you but she is to him. Merry Christmas.
Absolutely, they should be able to spend a few hours together at Christmas. They are getting of the age where their friends, girlfriends and boyfriends are more important than family whether you like it or not.
Maybe they can split their time up between the two families? Time to realize your child is growing up.
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