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View Poll Results: Do I say something about how I feel?
Talk to her in private 12 33.33%
Talk to him in private 0 0%
Talk to both of them 0 0%
Say nothing 24 66.67%
Voters: 36. You may not vote on this poll

Old 11-17-2018, 03:30 PM
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My daughter is an adult and she's very trustworthy so I'm worried that I'm over-reacting. Her boyfriend seems to be very clingy when we (her parents and sister) are around. He seems to be overly affectionate and doesn't like when his girlfriend shows affection for any of us. Should I say something or just keep my nose out of it? He also does the baby voice to her which is super annoying! I love spending time with my daughter but after a year, I still find him hard to tolerate.
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Old 11-17-2018, 03:33 PM
Location: State of Transition
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What do you mean by, "does the baby voice to her"? And how does he react when she's affectionate with her own family? How long have they been together? And what does "overly affection" mean? Does he paw her, or make out with her in front of you?

More info needed. Too vague.
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Old 11-17-2018, 04:27 PM
Location: Bloomington IN
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You don't like him or the way he acts, but after a year together your daughter obviously does. You said she's an adult, and you trust her. Remind yourself of that.
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Old 11-17-2018, 05:05 PM
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Zip your lip. Short of witnessing abuse, parents should have no say in who our kids pick as partners. Their happiness trumps our own.
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Old 11-17-2018, 05:23 PM
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The baby voice would be annoying. Perhaps next time you see them you should give him a big bear hug and talk to him in a baby voice.

Seriously, she's an adult so other than being supportive if she ever decides to break up there isn't much you can do.

Have you ever met his parents? That might be worthwhile, see what they are like and if he acts the same.
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Old 11-17-2018, 05:25 PM
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As the parent of adult children you shouldn't say anything to her unless you think their relationship is unhealthy. Everyone has irritating personality characteristics.
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Old 11-17-2018, 06:05 PM
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Say nothing. Unless she asks you your opinion. Then tell her.

My sis had a boyfriend like that. Really annoying as heck. Sis came to her senses when she finally started to feel like she was being smothered.
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Old 11-17-2018, 06:39 PM
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I would find it annoying too, unfortunately like one poster said unless he is abusive to her there isn't much you could do.
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Old 11-17-2018, 06:48 PM
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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My answer was talk to her in private. What I do with my adult children is, I voice my opinion, one time, and then I shut up about it.
That way, you have given your opinion for her to take or leave. My children respect my opinion, and I respect them to do what they think is best.
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Old 11-17-2018, 07:48 PM
Location: Minnesota
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What gentle hearts said. But maybe not directly say he annoys you. First ask how serious she is, then maybe something like you don't think he seems your type, but maybe I'm wrong, let yet fill in blanks. I wouldn't be direct.
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