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Old 03-28-2019, 01:39 PM
 
Location: NJ
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I guess he's not coming back...
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Old 04-04-2019, 07:29 AM
 
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OP is a teenage boy. Not a girl.

From the OP: "I stay in my room most of the time practicing and learning about music. But because im always in my room he complains about "he doesnt do anything" but if someone repeatedly told you that youre not worth their time or you never do anything right you wouldnt want to do anything for them either."
I was replying to another person who thought the OP was a girl.
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Old 04-04-2019, 07:40 AM
 
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I guess he's not coming back...
I keep liking your posts. Evidentially, C-D will not allow me to anymore.


You're right about the OP not coming back.

Obviously, what I and others posted, was not what the OP wanted to hear. For that, I am sorry.

It's similar to childs property - Childs Property
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Old 04-06-2019, 03:43 PM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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It's not mom OR DAD'S current SO who puts the child at risk. It is a MAN living with a child who is the child of his woman's previous man. It is a MAN living with a child who is not his child. When was the last time you heard of a stepmother killing her husband's child from a previous relationship?
This time. And many, many other times -https://www.sun-sentinel.com/news/fl-xpm-2005-07-05-0507040283-story.html
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Old 04-06-2019, 05:32 PM
 
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The situation sounds to me like the step-dad might have some kind of substance abuse issues, or a personality disorder, or something that's off. That's not normal behavior. I'm glad to hear your mom is taking his abusive behavior seriously. Stay in touch with us as things develop, OP.
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Old 04-08-2019, 02:40 AM
 
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Hey so yeah I’m back, and btw I’m a guy. I’m talking to my dad and stepmom about moving there. My mom knows I want to leave an is obviously against it. I get it but I’m pretty sure she’s mentally ill and I don’t want to get a call that she killed herself because I left (which she has talked about when she was angry and it scares the **** out of me.) because she attempted when I was really young. So what do I do? Just worry about me, talk to her on the phone after I leave to keep in touch. Or stay and eat **** for another year cuz I’ll be 17 in like 6 weeks.
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Old 04-08-2019, 02:49 AM
 
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And for everybody who’s wondering yes I do do chores around the house yes I do help around I vacuum I clean my room I do dishes and I clean the backyard and do my laundry I used to clean the bathrooms But since my stepdad says I can’t do them right he’ll do them from now on even though when I do them they are clean but not to his standards. ( and when I mean clean I mean no hair on the counters no nothing no toothpaste in the sink toilet scrubbed floors mopped shower is kind of iffy because I’m not exactly the best at scrubbing the showers and I’m willing to admit that)

No I do not claim to be an angel I have my own issues I have my own things that I have to deal with but I still don’t think it’s OK that anybody should be able to treat somebody the way I have described because everybody No matter whether it’s your neighbor or your brother I believe deserve some sort of respect so no I don’t badmouth and constantly talk back to my stepdad, I just avoid him so I don’t have to defend myself when he gets in my face. He’s not my dad. He may be older than me but just because someone is older than you does not constitute the right for them to treat you like **** and you being forced to kiss their ass as they’re doing it.
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Old 04-08-2019, 11:12 AM
 
Location: Atlanta, GA
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And for everybody whoís wondering yes I do do chores around the house yes I do help around I vacuum I clean my room I do dishes and I clean the backyard and do my laundry I used to clean the bathrooms But since my stepdad says I canít do them right heíll do them from now on even though when I do them they are clean but not to his standards. ( and when I mean clean I mean no hair on the counters no nothing no toothpaste in the sink toilet scrubbed floors mopped shower is kind of iffy because Iím not exactly the best at scrubbing the showers and Iím willing to admit that)

No I do not claim to be an angel I have my own issues I have my own things that I have to deal with but I still donít think itís OK that anybody should be able to treat somebody the way I have described because everybody No matter whether itís your neighbor or your brother I believe deserve some sort of respect so no I donít badmouth and constantly talk back to my stepdad, I just avoid him so I donít have to defend myself when he gets in my face. Heís not my dad. He may be older than me but just because someone is older than you does not constitute the right for them to treat you like **** and you being forced to kiss their ass as theyíre doing it.
The part in bold - make it a chant and repeat it many times a day in your head. He is NOT your father, and you should never, ever think of him as such. This goes for any child who is stuck with a stepparent. They're just an adult in the room, with zero authority over any children who are not theirs. Next time he gives you static, just say those magic words: You're not my father.

I never could understand why people who marry spouses with children who are not their own act like they're a valid parent. They're not, plain and simple. They're just an adult in the room, nothing more ...

On another note, I used to criticize how my parents were rearing me - yes, actual criticism...lol. Guilt trip city, since I knew what buttons to push, every time. Yes, I was a tough kid to raise. I'd been hell on Earth if I'd been stuck with a stepparent - they'd be the one chomping at the bit to get out of the house, not me. Trust me on this one.
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Old 04-08-2019, 05:38 PM
 
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I’m just trying to move to my dads where I’m more accepted
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Old Yesterday, 06:41 AM
 
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And for everybody whoís wondering yes I do do chores around the house yes I do help around I vacuum I clean my room I do dishes and I clean the backyard and do my laundry I used to clean the bathrooms But since my stepdad says I canít do them right heíll do them from now on even though when I do them they are clean but not to his standards. ( and when I mean clean I mean no hair on the counters no nothing no toothpaste in the sink toilet scrubbed floors mopped shower is kind of iffy because Iím not exactly the best at scrubbing the showers and Iím willing to admit that)

No I do not claim to be an angel I have my own issues I have my own things that I have to deal with but I still donít think itís OK that anybody should be able to treat somebody the way I have described because everybody No matter whether itís your neighbor or your brother I believe deserve some sort of respect so no I donít badmouth and constantly talk back to my stepdad, I just avoid him so I donít have to defend myself when he gets in my face. Heís not my dad. He may be older than me but just because someone is older than you does not constitute the right for them to treat you like **** and you being forced to kiss their ass as theyíre doing it.
Hold your head up high because you are doing what is right!
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