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Thats the exact reason I live in a highrise, I refuse to do yard work or handyman work. I've only met one female who was put off by this but then again she was a bit on the "country" side. While I most certainly can perform most of these duties there are professionals that can do it much better and with a warranty. Men with huge egos often make things worse by trying to prove their manhood.
I had to cut 5 acres of grass growing up, no way in hell I'll ever cut another blade of grass.
We both cook and clean and do laundry, however, and he's better with electronics/computerized stuff than I am. He's just not as skilled with general household repairs, etc.
Same deal here...I'm good, with computers/electronics/hi-tech stuff, but not with household repairs.
For the record though: I did plant about 100+ plants/trees/shrubs (including digging, planting, and replanting), over the past 2 years, around my property. I also did extensive landscaping hard labor, of that same time period. However, when it comes to things like drywalling, carpentry, etc., I fear my skills are woefully short in that regard.
I think it is a hardwired survival attraction. Handy males are more "useful," more able to protect the partner and offspring. I think it is a biological preference. Culturally, it is cool, too.
Who wouldn't want to have a "handy" partner? Do males also prefer "handy" females? Do gay males like "handy" partners?
I mean it's a "value added benefit." Why would anyone not want this?
I have never heard anyone say, "God, I hoope he is not handy!"
Do you expect women to cook, clean and do laundry? I think your thoughts along these lines depends on your upbringing.
Never fear, I do my own cleaning and laundry, 100% of the time
Cooking...sometimes receive help with that I'll admit; other times, I improvise for myself (although I hope to someday learn more about that particular talent, lol)
But would you be willing to learn, if it ever came down to it?
I don't have a problem with guys who lack experience in a certain area...but I will admit that I do find guys who aren't willing to learn how to do something and at least give it a shot kind of a turnoff. Of course, I also feel disdain for women who seem similarly helpless. I'm generally impressed by self-sufficiency and resourcefulness. One reason I admire my boyfriend is that he took a free class that a master electrician we know put on, on how to do simple electrical work, and rewired the ceiling fixture in our kitchen rather than call in an electrician. He didn't learn this stuff growing up, but he's willing to learn it now.
I think it is a hardwired survival attraction. Handy males are more "useful," more able to protect the partner and offspring. I think it is a biological preference. Culturally, it is cool, too.
Who wouldn't want to have a "handy" partner? Do males also prefer "handy" females? Do gay males like "handy" partners?
I mean it's a "value added benefit." Why would anyone not want this?
I have never heard anyone say, "God, I hoope he is not handy!"
Not saying, it isn't useful, or even a valuable skill. At the same time though, why the "hazing" from certain females, if the man is simply not up to it?
If someone can afford to "hire out" and wants to, what's wrong with that approach?
Not saying, it isn't useful, or even a valuable skill. At the same time though, why the "hazing" from certain females, if the man is simply not up to it?
If someone can afford to "hire out" and wants to, what's wrong with that approach?
I've never heard a woman "haze" a man for lacking such skills. That said, I personally find it to be an extremely appealing ability.
Honestly, if that is happening to you, it speaks more to your ability to choose with whom to surround yourself than it does your ability to be Mr. Fix-It. Somebody who's going to verbally abuse you is going to verbally abuse you no matter what...doesn't have much to do with whether or not you can fix a doorknob. If you were a professional handyman, people like that would just find something else to abusively target.
As the popular saying goes (paraphrased), "We can choose our friends, but not our family..."
I think it is a hardwired survival attraction. Handy males are more "useful," more able to protect the partner and offspring. I think it is a biological preference. Culturally, it is cool, too.
Who wouldn't want to have a "handy" partner? Do males also prefer "handy" females? Do gay males like "handy" partners?
I mean it's a "value added benefit." Why would anyone not want this?
I have never heard anyone say, "God, I hoope he is not handy!"
I see your point except for the whole "feeling protected" sham. I hear this a lot from women. being handy does not equate to being a good protector, just like being large and muscular doesn't. I think its something that women have convinced themselves to believe.
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