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I guess I see it more like learning to cook...I could pay somebody else to make my meals, but why not just sink the time into learning...it saves money in the long run to not be counting on somebody else to do basic stuff for a fee.
You do have an excellent point there...as it is, I wouldn't be able to afford to pay someone to cook for me anyway, even if I wanted to
So OK, maybe learning more on how to cook, could be nice...
I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman who prefers a man with some skills over one that can't handle very basic household tasks. However, if this same woman can't hold her own when it comes to cooking, cleaning, etc., she has no right to demand Mr. Handyman.
What's the deal with the tendency of some (not all), of the female gender, including female family members, to "expect" their men to also automatically be "handymen"? While some guys might genuinely enjoy doing these things, I personally can't stand most of it, and would just as soon "hire out", to have the work done by paying someone to do it.
Have any other guys, had their "manhood" called into question, if they weren't super-eager and enthusiastic, to do these kinds of "handyman" jobs, that could always be contracted out to a professional third party, and in many cases, even rather inexpensively?
Just what kind of jobs are you talking about? If a woman has a home or appartment and doesn't have the brains to do some simple things (maybe fix a loose door knob/hinge, replace a simple light fixture, tighten a loose nut on a leaky pipe), don't waste your time with them. More complicated stuff, like replacing a sink, remodeling a bathroom or hanging cabinets...I can see the need for help. But at the same time, these things take time. Maybe make an agreement for an exchange of services...something along the line of a nice home-cooked meal for an hour's "handyman" work. Or perhaps she cleans your bathroom and does your laundry when she comes to your place
My sister's husband has the ability to fix most things but he's also the world's biggest procrastinator. Many things end up untouched. And, yes, it is perhaps THE biggest bone of contention in their home. It wouldn't be nearly so bad if he was open to hiring someone to do the tasks, but he fusses over that idea, too.
In reverse, she's let her housekeeping "go" over the years. Gratefully, he don't dare complain.
You do have an excellent point there...as it is, I wouldn't be able to afford to pay someone to cook for me anyway, even if I wanted to
So OK, maybe learning more on how to cook, could be nice...
Every time you eat out, you are paying for somebody to cook for you...that's what I was referring to, not to having an onsite chef or catered meals or anything. It's convenient to not have to cook for yourself (just like it's convenient to pay somebody to change your oil, do painting, do light carpentry, do landscaping), but personally, I get more satisfaction out of taking ownership of stuff like that, myself. Some people value the time they save by hiring out for utilitarian stuff more, and I get that in the abstract, but for me, personally, I feel better when I feel more self-sufficient. Plus, I genuinely LIKE doing a lot of that stuff. I enjoy being out there, landscaping my own yard, and when people compliment it, saying, "Yeah, I did that," rather than, "Yeah, I know a guy..."
being able to fix things for women, despite my nagging insecurities about them. i remember a female co-worker lost a computer folder and i retrieved it for her using the search function, and i also retrieved the contents of a folder that were misplaced in another folder. she was really thankful for that.
another time i was talking about how i had a mouse infestation in my kitchen and how i trapped the mice and then throw them out. a recently married co worker said she liked that because her husband made her trap them and throw them out (my brother does the same to his wife he won't have any part of it) herself
It's because men who are problem-solvers are very attractive to us. We like it when men can make something happen, even something dull like fixing a door knob. Knowing that your man is ready and able to get the job done is a turn-on. it's basic, primal stuff - the man as a provider of a good home. Even feminists prefer a man who is handy (even if they are capable of doing for themselves).
True, true, I love me the handyman types. I am lazy and I'm cheap, I would rather have my SO do the work and not have to pay for it
Yes, I don't want somebody with no ability tearing up a wall or tearing out plumbing. At least do your homework on what you're going to tackle.
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