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First, sorry for the crudely titled thread, but that's pretty much the sum of it.
I recently confessed to a guy that I had feelings for him and he said he felt similarly but I just got the feeling his feelings weren't as strong as mine. We ended up hanging out a few days later where I slept over. We cuddled and his manhood was at full attention, but when I went to kiss him, he seemed not that into it. Then, when I sorta tried to touch him "down there", he gently but firmly removed my hand.
WHAT.THE.HELL. ???
anyone have any ideas what this is about? Do you think he just feels sorry for me and isn't that into me hence the cuddling but dispassionate kissing? If he's not into me, why did he have a massive hard-on? We've fooled around in the past w no issues, so I don't get what the deal is now.
Sunshine:
This is the tip-off, the part I bolded.
If he was into you, or had a crush on you or had sexual feelings for you (you, and not someone else who was not present at the room at the time) there would be kissing and lots of it.
He is very conflicted. This is not about you as a person or a girl. He is capable of being aroused by being stimulated, but kissing you or doing the deed with you is not what his heart wants.
I'm throwing my bet at same-sex attraction, and he's conflicted about it. He wants a hetero relationship, he just can't quite get there. Some gay-questioning guys would just go for sex with the girl anyway, and you would become even more confused as it feels emotionally empty. Of course I am totally reading into it.
I'm so sorry. This is hard to accept, but it isn't about you and how attractive you are, at all. Even if you ask him outright "are you gay" he might deny it (because wanting it to be so makes it so!). Follow your gut feeling for your own sake.
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So if a woman is sexually aroused Moderator cut: not PG13 is a guy entitled to to have sex with her? Nope, everybody would say that men need to be respectful towards women blah blah blah. Well, apply this to your scenario. If he was not feeling like it, too bad, respect his desicion. Women need to learn when a man says "no" as well. Blue ovaries won't kill you, believe me. You take "matters into your own hands" and move on.
That is the funniest thing I've seen all day.
Yes, women need to be careful about being too agressive or they'll get punched in the boob.
Last weekend, he had a party at his house and we totally got it on (TWICE! ) after everyone else went to sleep. He was really nervous because he didn't want anyone to know we were getting it on bc I used to date his best friend and he thinks everyone will be mad at him for getting in on with me.
Also, he says he "compartmentalizes his feelings" and he's not sure if he *likes* me or if he's just in *lust*. He said he needs to think about everything. I don't know if that's just a nice way of blowing me off or not, but I guess at this point all I can do is wait until he figures it out. By "wait" I mean give him space. I'm not going to sit around and wait for him to call, I'm going to go out and live my life.
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) after everyone else went to sleep. He was really nervous because he didn't want anyone to know we were getting it on bc I used to date his best friend and he thinks everyone will be mad at him for getting in on with me. 
