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Hi
I've got the same exact problem.
Deep down I don't think it will change either and I'm sad about it because we had made life changing plans to move countries etc and I don't really want to break both our dreams, but I feel it's not right to do it because I don't want to move on my own, as I think that would be selfish on my part.
At the moment I lack courage and also feel sad for my partner, carry guilt etc. I know this may not seem like a terrible problem but it is hard and confusing.
Not to split heirs but that is NOT rape...it would be rape if the guy forced himself on her. Many women have sex when they don't feel like it...I think they call that marriage...(I kid I kid)
Heh heh!
Happy New Year, everybody, off to watch Pirates of the Caribbean before kissing the family at midnight!
Love is very energetic and spiritual,that electricity,that energy comes and goes,I know this morning I completely lost interest in the guy im in love with,and started to feel interested in others it was very odd to me.
But now I feel completely in love with him again with no interest in others.
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Originally Posted by Planter
This has happened to me and its the most frustrating, mysterious thing. I met my partner 3 years ago and we hit it off both emotionally and sexually. After about a year, the sexual bit started to fade but I figured that was just normal and continued with the relationship. Fast forward to today and I am not attracted at all. Neither of us have changed physically and we both go to the gym.
We generally have a great time together, love each other, are affectionate, and communicate well (even about this issue). He is still attracted to me and I feel awful about that. I don't think this problem is medical--because I'm still attracted to other people. Good relationships don't grow on trees and I'm reluctant to let this one go. He is so very much in love with me that it is entirely my choice as to whether we should continue or not. Though, the sickest thing is that I would be very depressed if I did end it.
Has this happened to anyone here and if so what did you do about it? I'm not talking about a situation where someone became a jerk and it ruined your attraction to the person. My partner is actually very sweet and nice most of the time.
This has happened to me and its the most frustrating, mysterious thing. I met my partner 3 years ago and we hit it off both emotionally and sexually. After about a year, the sexual bit started to fade but I figured that was just normal and continued with the relationship. Fast forward to today and I am not attracted at all. Neither of us have changed physically and we both go to the gym.
We generally have a great time together, love each other, are affectionate, and communicate well (even about this issue). He is still attracted to me and I feel awful about that. I don't think this problem is medical--because I'm still attracted to other people. Good relationships don't grow on trees and I'm reluctant to let this one go. He is so very much in love with me that it is entirely my choice as to whether we should continue or not. Though, the sickest thing is that I would be very depressed if I did end it.
Has this happened to anyone here and if so what did you do about it? I'm not talking about a situation where someone became a jerk and it ruined your attraction to the person. My partner is actually very sweet and nice most of the time.
RE the bolded part.... you always have a choice to end it just as he does
Me personally nope! My ex for example........... I knew her for ages before in a FWB relationship until we finally give it a go. We were living together for just over a year and the sex part was the best of it, infact that was the only thing we didn't argue about LOL, I understand you can lose your appeal especially after being with someone for a while
But to be honest as huge a part of sex is to a relationship you do have a lot going for you so I would stick at it for a bit longer as I wouldn't be surprised if it perked up ( it does happen )
Can I ask what your fella said when you told him about this? ( don't worry I know he wasn't over the moon about it LOL )
Hi
I've got the same exact problem.
Deep down I don't think it will change either and I'm sad about it because we had made life changing plans to move countries etc and I don't really want to break both our dreams, but I feel it's not right to do it because I don't want to move on my own, as I think that would be selfish on my part.
At the moment I lack courage and also feel sad for my partner, carry guilt etc. I know this may not seem like a terrible problem but it is hard and confusing.
Usually it is an emotional intimacy issue. Lots of things build up and don't get solved, creating an underlying sense of resentment. One or both people feel they cannot be truly vulnerable with the other. This eventually kills attraction.
I agree. It is not fair to string him along. Poor guy. Breakups cause heartbreaks for a reason. You both will be broken hearted, but in the end it will be for the best.
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