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Also she could try working part time and see if she enjoys that, but ultimately if she doesn't want to work and you guys don't need the money, then fair enough! How you structure your life is no one else's business, but it is an enviable life style and people will have opinions about it... mostly from jealousy. My DH and I don't have near your income and even we get the occassional comments from people.
You sound very happy and I wish you both all the best!
I earn $ 800,000 per year. my girlfriend earns $60,000 per year. So when we get married, I would like her to stay home-no need for her to go to work when I can spend for both of us comfortably and also because she has to wake up at 5am on workdays and she returns home around 7pm so she does not like her job much and I hate to see her so tired- She just holds on to it because she want the money to live (her father is retired, her mother is a housewife she is the only child)
we have discussed this and she would like to stay home too(I ll be more than happy to spend for her parents. very kind, loving couple just like my parents)
I want to hire a maid to do washing, cleaning etc.at 1st she didn't agree saying she will be home so she can do the housework.But after making her understand that I would like her to relax and enjoy life and do what she likes instead of chores like washing dishes, clothes and sweeping floors she agreed.(I do feel bad about the majority who have to do what they don't enjoy and I do give for charities and if you enjoy washing dishes,im sorry if im offending you its just that my gf doesn't enjoy those)
She won't be bored at home. she already has a great friendship with my two dogs. she ll take them to walks, do volunteer work at the local animal shelter and the elderly home, cook and bake, do gardening work, read, visit her parents who are nearby, go to gym etc those are what she loves to do.
The problem is, one of her co workers feeds her opinions to my gf and makes it very hard for my gf to work. She s got 3 close friends and 2 are happy that she is getting a loving husband and a comfy life but the other one seems very jealous from what I hear. Seems she keeps saying my girlfriend that I cheat and I do these things for her out of guilt or im trying to buy her love or what happens if we get divorced or she says my girlfriend is a gold digger. And when she goes home this woman texts my gf saying these things! I ve seen her texts. when we are out on a date, she ll text nonstop!
well, I wouldn't ever cheat on her, I ve being in love with her for 8 years and no other woman interests me, I don't want to buy her love because she loves me enough already and im not insecure in anyway (looks, age, sexual performance etc) and we will not be divorced because I ll be crazy to divorce a woman like her and she wont want to divorce me because she loves me very much. My girlfriend is not a gold digger. She is an educated and simple woman who didn't even know what I earn what car I use etc when she fell in love with me. This friend seems jealous to me because she wouldn't let go even though my gf explained everything to her.
So my questions are,
if you are a man, if you earned what I earn you would like her to stay home and you ll provide her every comfort which you can afford right? Wrong?
If you are a woman and if you are in the position of my gf ( tiring job, do have lots of things to do at home, husband want to give you a comfy life) you will stay home and would agree to have a maid right? Wrong?
(those two questions are asked so that I can show the answers to my gf.i know she is bothered. she is a mild mannered crowd pleaser type of woman who wants to please everyone
Some Rich celebrities like actors, sportsmen, singers, directors etc have housewives and they also have lots of maids, those wives often get gifts worth millions too. so this friend of my gf is ok with them, but not with us. so don't you think that shows how jealous she is?
How do we deal with this paranoid woman? I don't want her to be bothering my gf.these are the months we should use to plan our wedding.
Your kind of income is what I am eventually targeting as I continue to grow up, so congrats for having made it that far. So I think I can try to speak up for an in your shoes situation.
Stay at home wives get bored. They will start to feel like there is no purpose to their lives rather than playing housewife to a cash cow. They can cheat, plenty of opportunities, what happens if the pool guy comes by and he's a 19 year old college kid and harnesses a MILF situation. I know I'm imagining things, but as a man, it's all about strategy and trying to prevent situations, rather than investing blind trust in a "wife" and rendering her powerless. And when you kick her out, she is entitled to half your cash
On the other hand, let's assume she is a stand-up woman. What if you suddenly die. And she would inherit your wealth yes, but what will happen when a woman tries to adapt to the world, living all alone and taking care of herself in terms of worldly things like filing for taxes, dealing with banks, property disputes if any, legal battles from relatives - my father suddenly died - and pretty much like you, he put the brakes on my mother's career. And I'm thinking, had she continued her profession, she'd be a champion now, and taking people to task. But she has become somewhat curtailed and helpless in her old age, and we have been placing people around her to keep a watch, given that I have to travel 2 days to even see her.
A woman needs to have her own niche, no matter if the husband is a millionnaire. I am not a big fan of total spouse dependence, though I will not mind if a spouse does total dependence.
Hell no. I'd take the maid, definitely. But I'd work.
Your post sounds pretty far-fetched.
^yep. Really, really far fetched.
Honestly I dont believe any of it, but Im game. Hypothetically, no way would I number
1.) want to turn my partner into someone financially dependant on me, and emotionally and functionally stunted.
2.)I would not put myself in the position that guys so often whine about: Potentially losing a chunk of investments, assets and paying alimony due to doing no. 1.
As far as the friend, no I don’t believe she is jealous. Your explanations don’t hold water she is trying to help your gf.
umm, how do i secure an 800K/yr gig that doesn't require breaking the law or having my bones broken as in the NFL? I am pretty sure my wife will acquiesce to that sort of proposal coming from me. Awaiting your response!
And wouldnt be wasting my time posting such "delimas" on C-D.
we know your not kidding.
I overheard such a service exists in Long Island
And two big dudes accompany the cleaning ladies for protection.
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