how do we get rid of this paranoid woman? will you stay home and have a maid if you could?
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Yes. I cannot imagine the people I know posting anything about their personal wealth. They might speak in generalities but they would never get specific. Most wouldn't even talk about the value of their house(s).
They'd consider it bad taste and nobody else's business. In that order.
I agree with all that in real life, but not online. No one in real life has a clue how much money we make or have in the bank. On here, who cares? No one knows who we are so it doesn't matter a jot.
You may not be able to imagine that your friends would mention salary online - I'm sure my friends would say the same about me. But actually you never know and I wouldn't discount someone's questions and feelings based on them mentioning financial status.
Would you feel the same distaste if he said he made $60,000 a year? Or is it just that he brought up a figure at all?
I agree with all that in real life, but not online. No one in real life has a clue how much money we make or have in the bank. On here, who cares? No one knows who we are so it doesn't matter a jot.
You may not be able to imagine that your friends would mention salary online - I'm sure my friends would say the same about me. But actually you never know and I wouldn't discount someone's questions and feelings based on them mentioning financial status.
Would you feel the same distaste if he said he made $60,000 a year? Or is it just that he brought up a figure at all?
I find it odd that he brought it up at all. I havent seen anyone on CD yet state the amount of their income. I've seen "I make 6 figures" or I make a good income. In my opinion right off the bat stating how much you make throws up a flag. And it really has no relavance to the question about hiring a maid and a buttinsky friend.
I find it odd that he brought it up at all. I havent seen anyone on CD yet state the amount of their income. I've seen "I make 6 figures" or I make a good income. In my opinion right off the bat stating how much you make throws up a flag. And it really has no relavance to the question about hiring a maid and a buttinsky friend.
This.
Now my answers to hiring a maid: If you've got the money, why not? You'll have a clean house (hopefully) and the maid will have a job.
Buttinsky friend: Don't read her messages. GF could pull up her big girl panties and tell the "friend" to mind her own business.
The end. VERY easy. Remarkably easy. Why it took such a long post on two different boards only the OP knows.
I'd like to know what $800,000 a year job doesn't require the person holding such a high paying position to have at least a basic knowledge of grammar, spelling, and punctuation.
Just sayin'.......
. The spelling especially. Clearly not a graduate from the Dalton school.
working provides more than just money, as many unwilllingly unemployed people will tell you. it provides a way to socialize, feel productive, and keep mentally stimulated. as for the "paranoid" woman, who cares? why are you givIng her so much power in your relationship?
If this was authentic, which I'm sure it's not, the OP would seem to have control issues. It's not up to him to decide what she should do with her life. She's not "property", she would be a partner in the marriage and could make decisions about how to spend money.
That is, if he LET her. Why do I get the feeling he would control everything - the checkbook, the car keys, the financial records, hold the passports, etc.? IMO, that's not a marriage.
What I'm getting from the original post is that there are different cultural values and that English is probably the poster's second language. Real post or not, it's brought up an interesting discussion.
OP, you are clearly of the mindset that you will provide for your family, your entire family, in the way that suits your standards, values, hardheadedness, whatever. That's great, but what you have to realize is that your girlfriend might not want to be provided for in exactly that way. Your primary job as her husband and life partner is to create the dreams and goals of your marriage together.
Together.
That means listening to her rather than trying to persuade her to embrace your views. If SHE isn't comfortable with full time help, listen and discover what does make her comfortable. If SHE isn't comfortable being an at home wife, find out what does make her comfortable. Maybe she will want to leave her current job but maybe she needs another sort of work to fulfill herself. Believe me, you want a fulfilled spouse. Anything less will draw energy from the marriage.
This could be an opportunity for her to pursue some of her amazing dreams. Do you know what those are? If you don't, sit down and find out.
If this is real and if she reads the replies, what I hope she takes from it is not that she needs to go along quietly with the majority of opinions. Instead, she needs to know that YOU value HER opinion far more than any you might read here. And because of that the TWO of you will blend cultural standards, historical family precedence and your own needs and you will create what works.
And that friend? She's not a friend.
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. The spelling especially. Clearly not a graduate from the Dalton school.
