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W/ the salary you have, you probably have a big house. I would probably take days to clean in properly, and why should your wife do that? .
yes the house is big and my parents live downstairs.its very big. i didnt want to live in it.but my parents are old and need to be taken care of.its not a house i purchased or built.my father purchased it way back in 1991.
I would not feel comfortable with a maid either. At least not a live-in one or a daily one. You can hire maids on a part-time basis or sort of custom order where they only do A, B, C, and you can do X, Y, Z and they only come on certain days or certain intervals.
If your GF doesn't have kids while you're married, yes, it can get boring staying at home if you don't have a lot of friends or other things going on. That doesn't mean she can't get other things started up though. A part-time job where she can keep up her skills is most ideal though
not a live in maid.the maid will do cleaning the house,washing,sweeping etc my wife will cook,do garden work etc. shes got loads of things to do.she wont be bored.she said so and she loves it
With no kids, she will get awful bored being off all day, busybodying around, and spending those $$. Not such a fulfilling lifestyle. She may just seek out attention elsewhere if you work alot also.
Why are you so set on having her stay home? A man earning serious $$ needs to make serious considerations these days.
im not set on having her stay home. im set on providing every comfort for her. she will not be bored.she is a very active person who reads,cooks, works out,takes care of her parents needs etc
I still wouldn't want a full-time maid if I didn't work and stayed at home. It would just feel weird. A part-time maid maybe. I suppose if my outside of the home non-work/non-childrearing activities kept me so busy that I didn't have time to clean then I would be okay with the maid, but still not everyday!
eta: If he has or gets a prenup, then that introduces the idea of divorce into the picture (which is completely unromantic btw), so then it's even more imperative that she continue working full-time and keep her job (protecting herself) or if she quits her job and starts a business make sure that's included in the prenup as well.
its not a full time maid.as i ve mentioned the maid will just clean and wash.my wife will cook and do other things i said before prenup is so unromantic.you are correct about that.why get married ready for a divorce! we wont get divorced.we are sure about it. i know her for 8 years and we havent had one big fight. (we did have "why didnt you call me? kind of fights )
Come on guys - FIRST POST - methinks someone here is pulling our leg
it may sound like it.but every word i e said is true.our family has a family business.thats how i make that kind of money. some of you may know it by the name too.but i do not want to give out that detail.hope you understand.im sorry about that
I don't have any idea how old you are, but I do know you have zero experience when it comes to dealing with a woman. You say you will never divorce because she loves you so much. You are dead wrong, period. There is NEVER a guarantee that won't happen. If you don't allow her to continue working you are making a huge mistake. How would you like the court telling you to pay alimony of $400,000 a year to someone who suddenly became a different person that you hated? You wouldn't be the first person this has happened to. Don't fall into that trap, use your head and sign a prenuptial agreement before you get married. You have a lot to lose and could very easily lose it, even if you think you can't. As far as a maid goes, I wouldn't consider it unless your wife is working, then it would help her a great deal. If she is home everyday by herself with nothing to do she will get bored and find something to occupy her time and your money.
After writing an answer to your post I discussed this situation with my wife. Her response was "let your wife work if she wants to, she will feel more self worth". She then asked if I had mentioned how old I am, and when I said no, she laughed and said maybe you should have told him how old you are and that you have been through it all. I'll say it again, there are no guarantees in life, prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Your post reminds me of the young women that marry an alcoholic thinking their love will change him, it never does...
im 32. she does not equal self worth with how much she can earn.or on having a job.she feels worthy when she does things for other people, she feels worthy by being a faithful,honest person.in fact, we both feel that way
Hmm... I really do hope this is a real story, I find it sweet that you want your wife to enjoy life and not having to do anything that she doesn't want to do. I can think of many things one can do to stay active and have fun at home, writing a book, blogging, CD Forum ^__^, gardening, shopping, traveling to exotic places, start a line of home made jewelry line, etc etc.
However, judging from the quality of the writing, the story does not seem authentic... I've dated a few mid-level managers, VPs, and co-chairs of various sized companies who make comparable salaries to OP. Maybe I'm stereotyping, but successful corporate types share similar qualities: witty, charismatic, good writer and speaker, highly educated, confident (of course, some of those have egos the size of Texas). Even their texts are well-written and highly quotable. I don't know what line of work the OP does, but I can't see him earning 800k a year, sorry. X_X
I would LOVE to see a truly down to Earth and loving millionaire though.
this is real.i do not have time to compose nice posts.sorry about that. and this is not something i can get my secretary to work on
I'd like to know what $800,000 a year job doesn't require the person holding such a high paying position to have at least a basic knowledge of grammar, spelling, and punctuation.
Just sayin'.......
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i didnt want to live in it.but my parents are old and need to be taken care of.its not a house i purchased or built.my father purchased it way back in 1991.
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