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But seriously, I've had a date or two like that and I couldn't get out of there fast enough.
Yeah, agreed.. I sure wouldn't want to go through that again unless she was a 9 or 10, then I'd just make sure to take a few shots before and hope to god it goes better.
In reality, how hard is it to really talk to someone? How do you sit in silence.. I just don't get that, I don't think that has ever happened to me, even if I wasn't interested. If you both couldn't talk about anything... there's probably something REALLY not compatible with you guys..
Hmmm...That is a awkward situation..
I can honestly state that this has happened to me only one time...
It was weird from the beginning..I knew what he looked like from pics..I had spoken to him several times over the phone several times..I did not have any "feelings" either good or bad about him before we met..
When I got there I did not "see" anyone that resembled the man I saw in the pics...until I took another look around the Bar/grill and saw a bald guy making his way towards me, he looked way different...lol, the bald was the only honest thing about him..
We were seated and we did not speak other than for him to ask me what was good on the menu...it was so uncomfortable..I found I was not my usual chatty self..I just didnt care but was still polite..we said our goodbyes and went our separate ways...I never looked back..
It had nothing to do with his looks, I just did not feel anything..which was odd since I can usually speak to anyone and at least find something to discuss but he had no affect, he was very bland...yuck..
I agree it was awkward and uncomfortable for both of us. A part of me wants to just walk away and never look back, but another part wonders where this could lead if I was being myself. It's not that difficult to hold a conversation and usually I can no problem, but this time was different. I just feel like there might be something there. I don't know. I could be wrong.
I should also clarify that unlike your date dr74 it wasn't completely silent. We did laugh and smile but there were more silences than normal for a first date. Going into a first date, esp a blind one, I expect there to be silences but this was just one too many
I was set up with this guy by a mutual friend and right off the bat there were awkward silences. I don't know if it was because of me or him, but I just couldn't think of anything to get the conversation going and apparently neither could he. I'm not the shy, quiet type, but for whatever reason i couldn't think of anything to say.
The date did not go well because we couldn't think of any conversation topics. But I still want to give it a second chance even though I'm positive he doesn't feel that way. At the end, he walked me to my car and we said our goodbyes and that was it.
But like i said, I want to give it another try and get to know him better because he really does seem like a nice, genuine guy.
Is there any way I can salvage this situation?
That happened to me recently. We had a couple of good conversations on the phone but when we met in person I think we were both thinking, "Meh..." We walked away after our lunch date and we never spoke to each other again.
I was set up with this guy by a mutual friend and right off the bat there were awkward silences. I don't know if it was because of me or him, but I just couldn't think of anything to get the conversation going and apparently neither could he. I'm not the shy, quiet type, but for whatever reason i couldn't think of anything to say.
The date did not go well because we couldn't think of any conversation topics. But I still want to give it a second chance even though I'm positive he doesn't feel that way. At the end, he walked me to my car and we said our goodbyes and that was it.
But like i said, I want to give it another try and get to know him better because he really does seem like a nice, genuine guy.
Is there any way I can salvage this situation?
sure, call him and tell him what happened, ask for another try. If he blows you off then at least you know whats up. Bring your better self next time though
Maybe get drunk before seeing him next time? so you can loose up a bit, booze can be good for this kind of situation. Eat a mint after drinking so he doesnt think you are a drunk.
Maybe get drunk before seeing him next time? so you can loose up a bit, booze can be good for this kind of situation. Eat a mint after drinking so he doesnt think you are a drunk.
That's terrible advice. For one thing, drunk people say stupid things and often slur their words. For another, he's going to smell it. For another, he will think she's a drunk.
And then what? He also assumes she's a tramp and tries to get her drunker to see if he can get laid, or she's stuck driving home drunk.
If there's no spark, there's no spark. With millions of men out there, there are plenty to choose from where a date won't be like pulling teeth.
That's terrible advice. For one thing, drunk people say stupid things and often slur their words. For another, he's going to smell it. For another, he will think she's a drunk.
And then what? He also assumes she's a tramp and tries to get her drunker to see if he can get laid, or she's stuck driving home drunk.
If there's no spark, there's no spark. With millions of men out there, there are plenty to choose from where a date won't be like pulling teeth.
Look at it this way: When people get drunk, their own judgment is off. She may find what he says oh, so witty, when really, he's being an arse. Or she may think he's being an arse when really, he's not gung-ho about sitting across the table from someone who obviously felt the need to get drunk in order to see him.
There's nothing wrong with having a drink or two together. But show up sober and see if there is any natural chemistry, first, and don't get drunk on the first few dates. It just doesn't look good for the person who is drunk.
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That's terrible advice. For one thing, drunk people say stupid things and often slur their words. For another, he's going to smell it. For another, he will think she's a drunk.
