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How many of you find absolutely nothing wrong with hanging out with opposite sex friends in one on one situations while in an exclusive relationship?
And, how many of you are ok or not ok with that friendship behavior from your significant other?
So basically, in a situatuation such as this:
My girlfriend at the time wanted to hang out, one on one, with a friend to see some photos he took while on vacation in Europe. This hang out was to occur at the guys house (he supposedly lives with his mom still....) This guy is someone I dont know at all, but she had mentioned he was quite the "ladies man"...
Is this normal? Was the ex girlfriend pushing acceptable relationship boundries?
Ladies, what if the role was reversed? How would you feel if your BF went over to another womans place "to look at photos"?
There was never any intention of inviting me along. My exGF thought there was nothing wrong with what she wanted to do. "you should trust me more" she said.
Oh, and this "picture date" was set up through facebook chatting, which ended up with my exGF at the time giving this "friend" her phone number. ExGf told the guy, "text/call me".
Is this whole scenerio something I should be concerned about, or do I just need to trust that this "picture date" wouldn't have turned into something more between these two?
To put it bluntly, it depends on how attractive the other guy is. Sorry if that is superficial to all you.
If my GF was going over to a guy's house who wasn't attractive at all, I would drive her there and give her chocolates and flowers to bring. If he was very attractive I would drive her there and then park 2 blocks away, and monitor the place with 3 of my buddies in army gear.
This was a one time "hang out" to see some photo's, not a daily or weekly activity.
Bottom line is, trust is the basis of all good relationships.
If you can't trust the one you love then you need to let them go, because either
A) they are untrustworthy
or
B) you are too immature for a committed relationship.
Hmm, wow. I appreciate the honesty. I have been cheated on before.
But, I had caught her up in a couple lies over the relationship. So you see nothing wrong with your significant other giving their number to someone of the opposite sex to hang out?
I really would like help here? Maybe I do have trust issues....but the people I have spoke with this about (close family members and friends) say she was basically wrong to do that. But the apple doesnt fall far from the tree right? Was the exGF just doing normal "friend" behavior? Isnt looking the other way on something like that setting yourself up for a devestating oppurtunity for the S/O to cheat?
To put it bluntly, it depends on how attractive the other guy is. Sorry if that is superficial to all you.
If my GF was going over to a guy's house who wasn't attractive at all, I would drive her there and give her chocolates and flowers to bring. If he was very attractive I would drive her there and then park 2 blocks away, and monitor the place with 3 of my buddies in army gear.
I guess for the most part he is pretty attractive. I dont know why, but I am unable to judge if a guy is attractive. But I know that about a year ago the two of them "were all over each other" at a bar. They didn sleep with each other though. Yes they were drunk. This occurance happened before I met the now exGF. My exGF claims, "he is just a friend, someone who i can easily talk to...."
My exGF claims, "he is just a friend, someone who i can easily talk to...."
HAhahahahahahha!
And easily make out with.
This is what you call a "red flag."
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