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She needs to tell the guy to come on over to your house and you'll all enjoy the photos together. That's the proper thing to do. She should have thought of that right away.
There's no need for her to go to his place and be alone with him.
My wife has male friends and I have female friends. It's never come up about being apart with opposite sex friends - we just both have mutual brains and respect for each other to know that that is wrong!
This guy, the one with the pictures, should have thought of this without hesitation if he had no other motive.
Me? I'd tell the guy that he's welcome to drop by sometime and we'll see his photos....and if he finds anything wrong with that then he can shove it where the sun don't shine.
as far as the other guy, well actually, he didnt engage this idea. He mentioned he had all these photos, and my exGF said "i'd really love to see them sometime". He actually didnt ask her, the exGF spearheaded this whole thing. I actually think this guy might have respected the fact my exg was in a relationship. In this friendship, on FB anyway, the exGF engaged the other guy EVERY ATIME. This other guy never once sparked conversation on FB her her. It was always her engaging him.
How many of you find absolutely nothing wrong with hanging out with opposite sex friends in one on one situations while in an exclusive relationship? - Me
And, how many of you are ok or not ok with that friendship behavior from your significant other? - Me
Either you trust them or you don't. When you decide either stay or move on.
I will be honest i would hate it. If you both agreed to have a commited relationship, than there shouldnt be any other people from the opposite sex in the picture. Simple as that. I am probably in the minority who thinks this way. To me i dont understand why you would be friends with someone of the opposite sex if you are in a relationship. It seems so pointless. Yes, this has ruined relationships for me in the past but this is how i feel about the subject.
If this is what i have to accept to be in a relationship than i would rather not be in one.
as far as the other guy, well actually, he didnt engage this idea. He mentioned he had all these photos, and my exGF said "i'd really love to see them sometime". He actually didnt ask her, the exGF spearheaded this whole thing. I actually think this guy might have respected the fact my exg was in a relationship. In this friendship, on FB anyway, the exGF engaged the other guy EVERY ATIME. This other guy never once sparked conversation on FB her her. It was always her engaging him.
See, this is why sometimes I wish people would post more details in their OP, because an entirely different picture is emerging.
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Originally Posted by imapro
OP since you are also from IL, wanna meet?
Unfortunate proposition to make to a random man on the Internet, given your screen name. You're a pro, huh?
The point is this: I am challenging myself. Am I wrong here to be jealous? Is this part of the reason I am 34 and single? I try to grow as a person. I liked this woman, loved even. we had troubles though. Am I too untrusting? Was this worth being extremely upset about? I am trying to learn from this experience. Maybe I should not be in such a hurry to assume the worst, but jeez this situation just didnt sound good to me originally.
I would say your wrong to be jealous, but not wrong to feel at least some unease at the situation because. If your gf has otherwise, shown and proven she loves and is committed to you, there is no reason to be jealous if she has other friends. Let her actions speak. A 1 time meet isn't the actions of a cheater. Or someone intending to cheat.
However, a little unease is not uncalled for. The situation has your attention and you noted it. If nothing else happens as time passes that raises your suspicions, then it should reinforce your confidence in your relationship.
ohh i thought i'm on a dating site . I'm a woman hear me roar. as for the situation it really depends i mean ya i can trust my man but can i trust the ho? know what i'm sayin'? so if put on the spot my answer is : bring the pics so I can see it with them.
Most of my friends are male, and I've known many of them for 10 years or more and yes, I'd be a little irritated if my boyfriend said I couldn't hang out with them anymore. I'm not into them, they're not into me, nothing will ever happen as they see me as a 'dude with boobs'.
This isnt good Ive been here (pictures and all) I feel one thing leads to another. We all know what this ladies man wasafter and your girl knew it too. Inappropriate. Who cares about some pictures? And isn't that what fb is.for in the first place? I invited myself along when it happened to me. That b* tch was TROUBLE. But it was downhill from there. If you can't be there , they want to be alone red flag. I don't find this acceptable.
Most of my friends are male, and I've known many of them for 10 years or more and yes, I'd be a little irritated if my boyfriend said I couldn't hang out with them anymore. I'm not into them, they're not into me, nothing will ever happen as they see me as a 'dude with boobs'.
Well, thats the thing.
Most guys don't see woman as "a dude with boobs".
Most guy I know anyway. Now, that DOESN'T mean that opposite sex friends are not possible, but I have so many male friends that would sleep with a opposite sex friend just cus it is fun and it feels good.
And then sometimes the friendship continues, sometimes it ends.
I don't consider myself naieve. Maybe I hang out with a lot of "pigs". But this is what I have seen from 20 ish years of opposite friend friendships....
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. I'm a woman hear me roar. as for the situation it really depends i mean ya i can trust my man but can i trust the ho? know what i'm sayin'? so if put on the spot my answer is : bring the pics so I can see it with them.
