Should I move to find love? (wife, girlfriends, marriage, guy)
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I've only been back and at this job for about a year. I was traveling out of state. That could be a lot of my problem maybe. my close friends don't live here, I'm kind of starting over, I guess you could say. I''m not new to Denver though. I grew up in CO.
I am pretty independent, but I still want a relationship. I can do many things on my own or I know how to get it done if I can't, but it shouldn't make a guy go running for the hills. I still hope to find a partner in life.
Honey, you can't expect to have found a relationship if you've always been traveling. You ARE starting over in Denver, so don't despair. Do some of the things other posters are suggesting -- join groups, participate in activities, make (and keep) friends. Expand your network.
As for the independence, I hear ya. Independence is good, but for whatever messed up reason, if a guy senses you're TOO independent, he tends to fall away. Even some of the ones who say they value independence. It's like they're afraid you won't "need" them at all if you come off too strong. So just be mindful of the vibe you're giving out there.
I checked out your pic. I think you're attractive. In my opinion, you need to just get "into" the life there, make friends, and be patient.
I just don't know if I'm cut out for online dating.
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Originally Posted by JrzDefector
I have to say, I've found plenty of guys who weren't looking for hookups on OKC. Screen them more carefully maybe? Or take a look at what your profile says and the questions you've answered?
LOL, the one Broncos game I went to was total sensory overstimulation. My ADD was in overdrive for the next 48 hours! I don't know if that's a good place to meet anyone I think baseball is a little more, well, boring
I'm also under going this thought process. The amount of single woman in my area that don't want children also is real low for my smaller college based town, so I am also entertaining the reason of moving to a larger urban city is to find more woman my type
I'm also under going this thought process. The amount of single woman in my area that don't want children also is real low for my smaller college based town, so I am also entertaining the reason of moving to a larger urban city is to find more woman my type
Except that the OP in this thread is already in a larger urban city.
I wish someone could tell me what kind of vibes I'm putting out, because I don't think I am. I have met the wrong ones, for sure, but that seems like all I meet-the wrong ones! all the time. But when I met my ex-finace, I was the same person, I went about my life just as I do now.
Maybe it isnt what you are putting off at all, maybe its what you are going after?
In my experience, many women who "give up" or believe there "are no good men" or "they just cant find a good guy like so and so" or "they can only find losers", have the same thing in common. They just keep dating the same dudes.
Seriously. I knew this woman at my first job, who "thought all men were the same" (basically agressive, violent, prone to cheating and stupid), yet would only exclusively date Alpha type Marines with body builder physiques, and you just want to slap her in the forehead.
Im not saying this is the issue, but, maybe youve fallen in to this kind of trap?
Find an impartial 3rd party. Get a life coach or something. They'll essentially be a stranger and pick up on more than a friend you're used to. Be prepared for brutal honesty.
well, I wonder. I don't feel I am actively "looking" when I go out. So, when I get approached. I give the guy an equal chance, just like the last one. I stay the same. They are the ones that turn out to be losers or criticize me with their little digs, etc. I don't actively seek them out, they seem to come to me. I don't know what it is about me that makes them come up to me, because I won't date them. It's not like I seek them out, date them then get rid of them. As soon as I sense they are getting weird or say something rude to me, I'm out.
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Originally Posted by Randomdude
Maybe it isnt what you are putting off at all, maybe its what you are going after?
In my experience, many women who "give up" or believe there "are no good men" or "they just cant find a good guy like so and so" or "they can only find losers", have the same thing in common. They just keep dating the same dudes.
Seriously. I knew this woman at my first job, who "thought all men were the same" (basically agressive, violent, prone to cheating and stupid), yet would only exclusively date Alpha type Marines with body builder physiques, and you just want to slap her in the forehead.
Im not saying this is the issue, but, maybe youve fallen in to this kind of trap?
don't even get me started on wanting kids!!! maybe I need to move to your town! the men there want kids?? lol
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Originally Posted by 1ceTr0n
I'm also under going this thought process. The amount of single woman in my area that don't want children also is real low for my smaller college based town, so I am also entertaining the reason of moving to a larger urban city is to find more woman my type
But, as one of the posters said, It must just be me, something about me that no one is interested in. oh, I'm great to have an affair with,(which I've gotten asked to do by several married guys-no thanks), I'm great for a hook up, I'm great for a casual date, but a long term relationship? or perhaps a family? No Way, Not Her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But, as one of the posters said, It must just be me, something about me that no one is interested in. oh, I'm great to have an affair with,(which I've gotten asked to do by several married guys-no thanks), I'm great for a hook up, I'm great for a casual date, but a long term relationship? or perhaps a family? No Way, Not Her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why do you think this way? Have multiple guys sat you down and said "I have no interest in you specifically for a relationship"?
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I think baseball is a little more, well, boring
