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Hmmm. I don't think all married men wish they'd slept with someone of every race/nationality or had threesomes before settling down.
I guess I'm just having a hard time understanding wanting to try everything sexually with women who will mean nothing to you in the end, and not having any new experiences with the woman you ultimately choose to share your life with. But, hey, to each their own.
We're just different people. I know myself and know that I'd be very tempted to cheat regularly if I were to get married having only been with 10-20-30-40 women. I'm already way above the average number of sexual partners one normally has and I still don't think I've fully sowed my wild oats. I'll need another strong 5-6 year run before I'll be able to totally call it quits and commit to one woman.
I think the reason I'm like this is because I realize how many women are actually out here in the world. You have women of all different ethnicities, body types, ages, etc. and I need to experience as much as possible before settling down with one woman. I also love the thrill of the chase...it's like a drug.
I plan on settling down once I've been with at least 200 women sexually. I feel like I need to do everything I've ever wanted to do before committing to one woman for life.
I don't want to have any regrets.
Are you sure you won't regret experimenting with that many women? That seems to be a staggering goal to me. Contracting an STD or two, having an accident lead to a pregnancy, or finding that when you find "the one" that she is turned off by your past history could all lead to regrets too.
I am not against experimenting or anything... just asking really. Presenting the other side of the coin in essence.
Are you sure you won't regret experimenting with that many women? That seems to be a staggering goal to me. Contracting an STD or two, having an accident lead to a pregnancy, or finding that when you find "the one" that she is turned off by your past history could all lead to regrets too.
I am not against experimenting or anything... just asking really. Presenting the other side of the coin in essence.
I doubt I'll regret it at all.
-Other than herpes and HIV, I don't worry about STDs much (they can be patched up).
-I do my best to prevent pregnancy from occurring. I understand there's a bit of a risk, but I'm fine with that.
-I'd never tell anyone I got serious with about how many women I've slept with. As long as I'm disease-free, that's all that matters.
We're just different people. I know myself and know that I'd be very tempted to cheat regularly if I were to get married having only been with 10-20-30-40 women. I'm already way above the average number of sexual partners one normally has and I still don't think I've fully sowed my wild oats. I'll need another strong 5-6 year run before I'll be able to totally call it quits and commit to one woman.
I think the reason I'm like this is because I realize how many women are actually out here in the world. You have women of all different ethnicities, body types, ages, etc. and I need to experience as much as possible before settling down with one woman. I also love the thrill of the chase...it's like a drug.
Curious, are you having relationships with all 200 women or more like one-night stands? As a woman, there are all kinds of things sexually that my (ex)husband and I did that I wouldn't do with a stranger or near stranger. You might be surprised what a committed LTR brings for you.
However, your "thrill of the chase" explains a lot. I had a female friend like that and she chased guys like crazy and the minute she got them, she dumped them. If the pursuit is most of the appeal, then you're definitely not ready to settle down, 200 sexual partners or not.
Curious, are you having relationships with all 200 women or more like one-night stands? As a woman, there are all kinds of things sexually that my (ex)husband and I did that I wouldn't do with a stranger or near stranger. You might be surprised what a committed LTR brings for you.
However, your "thrill of the chase" explains a lot. I had a female friend like that and she chased guys like crazy and the minute she got them, she dumped them. If the pursuit is most of the appeal, then you're definitely not ready to settle down, 200 sexual partners or not.
Mostly one-nighters, friends with benefits, and hookups from online. I haven't been in a relationship since like 2009, but I've had plenty of sex since then.
Well, let's be real. Unless you marry after your high school graduation, it is likely you'll have multiple partners.
However, if you're going to have sex, it better be with someone who you really, really like. Because there's always the possibility of pregnancy. If that happens, do you really want to spend the next 18-22 years writing child support checks to a woman you barely knew?
I think its an important process. It teaches you to a greater extent what you want and like in a partner and what you don't want and like. It also teaches you about yourself. I know someone who married his first GF, things havn't worked out too well. Of course it can, but hasn't in their case.
Thoughts on the subject from both a male and female point of view?
My first marriage ended because she kept wondering what other men were like. She did not cheat, she just left. 20 years later she admitted she made a mistake.
My current wife and I met when she was 18, I was 33. We broke up after living together for a couple years. She wanted to play around a bit. We got back together and married 10 years later. Still happy together 12 years of marriage.
It would just leave me with absolutely no regrets at all. I feel that if I'm going to settle down with one woman for possibly the next 40-50 years, I need to have everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) pertaining to sex with other women out of my system.
I don't want to be one of those married guys who regrets he never experienced certain things sexually (like 3somes or sex with a woman of every race) nor do I want to be one of those married guys who runs around on his wife. I figure if I go over that 200 number, I'll be so exausted, disgusted, and bored of that lifestyle that I'll be more than happy to settle down.
You must be pretty sexually inexperienced now if you think you need to sleep with 200 people to pretty much try everything that can be done.
You must be pretty sexually inexperienced now if you think you need to sleep with 200 people to pretty much try everything that can be done.
No, I've already been with over 50 women so far and it's still not enough. 200+ is when I'll likely hit the point of total saturation and will actually want to settle down.
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But, hey, to each their own.
