I feel like I dont have anything to offer (movies, girl, young)

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by John13

I couldn't tell. However, it would have helped if there was some information on your profile. I did look. All message boards I have ever posted on will state the gender but not here.

My apologies. It really did sound like a guy posting. That's what I get for assuming.
I slightly edited my post...

Some forums give members the option of not stating gender. Some forums I've been on don't take female posters seriously, so women use either neutral or male-sounding handles. You'd be surprised how hostile some forums can be toward female members, just discussing random topics. It's a zoo out there.

[Rabbitluvr]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

Even if looks were an issue, rabbit, this kind of thing can overcome that, but we've been around that track before. I don't want to sound like a broken record.

Certainly not... I don't expect you to have a leather throat here. HOWEVER... a few positive experiences in my favor would definitely help.

[Rabbitluvr]

Originally Posted by futureATLien

I'm talking about myself....I really dont pay attention to other peoples looks honestly
unless I'm attracted to them of course

Perhaps there ARE guys who are attracted to YOU but you do not notice them for a certain reason - hint, hint.

[sarahdeanne]

It took me a while to develop my own preferences (on small things like food, books, clothes, music). I remember realizing that avacados were a favorite or that I love to read memoirs of women from all around the world and realistic fiction most. It was almost like meeting someone likable except I was meeting myself!

I think like other's said you should explore hobbies and get to know yourself. Try new things and maybe journal about what you liked and didn't. I think it's wise to take a break, not because you have nothing to offer but because you don't want someone else to come in a dominate your personality to the point that you don't develop on your own. I had people like that around me most of my life they were just so much louder so I followed. Now I just love feeling like I prefer one thing over another and saying so. It sounds silly but I do think it makes me better company and a more complete person.

[sarahdeanne]

Originally Posted by Rabbitluvr

Perhaps there ARE guys who are attracted to YOU but you do not notice them for a certain reason - hint, hint.

awwww that's cute

[JrzDefector]

OP, you're a lesbian, right? I seem to remember that from other posts by you. That automatically puts you in a smaller pool, which makes dating more difficult - less to choose from and seek compatibility with. That alone could account for your dry spell.

First, you have to fix your self esteem. Go out and cultivate new interests. Find your mojo. You sound like you have oodles to offer, but I suspect you need to locate your own self-worth and adopt some outgoing behaviors.

Second, if you don't have many ties with the GLBT community, you're going to have to develop some. Go to some events or festivals - even some rallies, maybe - and network. One of my best friends in the world is a gay man, but his friends are almost all straight. He has a terrible time meeting people to date.

My other friends who are gay or lesbian have built up groups of friends who are also gay/lesbian - that way they meet more people that they can potentially date. One friend who is a lesbian has a very diverse group of female friends who get together for various activities - a lot of dating goes on within the group, but the group also leads them to meet other people.

I'm not saying you build artificial friendships or ditch your straight friends - just that you should look to expand your social circle further.

Where do you live? You may want to consider moving to a big city if you are not already in one.

I'd also suggest that you look into online dating.

[Mr.City]

Originally Posted by futureATLien

I'm a girl....lol
and i've been told I'm average, but cute

Consider adding some photos to your CD profile.

It will allow us to evaluate your cuteness and shower you with excessive compliments...

[futureATLien]

Originally Posted by sarahdeanne

awwww that's cute

I'm confused????
....also I put a pic up

[futureATLien]

Originally Posted by sarahdeanne

It took me a while to develop my own preferences (on small things like food, books, clothes, music). I remember realizing that avacados were a favorite or that I love to read memoirs of women from all around the world and realistic fiction most. It was almost like meeting someone likable except I was meeting myself!

I think like other's said you should explore hobbies and get to know yourself. Try new things and maybe journal about what you liked and didn't. I think it's wise to take a break, not because you have nothing to offer but because you don't want someone else to come in a dominate your personality to the point that you don't develop on your own. I had people like that around me most of my life they were just so much louder so I followed. Now I just love feeling like I prefer one thing over another and saying so. It sounds silly but I do think it makes me better company and a more complete person.

This is good advice!

[dr74]

Originally Posted by futureATLien

Well I like watching all sports and I like traveling and keeping w/current events

Already you are one leg up...I have met many men in my quest to find the right one for me and I have found that my tomboy past/passions have them surprised..lol..
There is nothing wrong with keeping up with current events it means you care and care to know about the world around you..

Originally Posted by futureATLien

Well I'm a bit shy, so that maybe holding me back a bit
I tend to open up when I'm one on one

lol..There is nothing wrong with being being shy and a girl. I would never go up to a guy, ever..I feel if they like me enough they will approach me and if they pass me up? It is their loss and not mine.

Originally Posted by futureATLien

I have an ok job. Trying to find another I'm not successful thus far

Umm, you have a job again you are already ahead of the game

Originally Posted by futureATLien

I dont feel like I'm interesting enough. I feel like my personality is kinda bland

How can you say that? You like sports, know about current events all you need to through in there is random facts and you are set...

Originally Posted by futureATLien

just about everyone on this board thinks I'm a guy...shrugs shoulders

ahahahahahahaha!!! They thought the same thing until I posted a pic, do not take it personal, it is hard to know the gender sometimes by the way one types..

My advice to you? Be you, have fun and do not worry about the ones you don’t get and focus on the ones you really want to know.
People will be people and are looking for the physical first and making judgment on those looks.
I.E. I get different reactions from different people.
People whom have barely met me on the job have stated after awhile that I am intimidating? Lol..I mean business and look like I could kick some ass? Lmao.. I see myself as a sweetheart but this is how I am on the job, professional.Get to know me and you will realize this.
Guys in bars? Will cat call, hit me up with chessy lines ect..and when I do not succumb to such antics? I am a ice queen/*****..lol
When it is me really just having standards.
Men that have approached me in a neutral environment? Will have the best impression, I am relaxed, smiling and free flowing, sarcastic and funny.
So with this stated, there are many facets to you and who you are, you are selling yourself short, how do you expect someone to notice you or take you seriously when you yourself havent sold yourself to the most important person? YOU…
Best of luck..