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I'm a girl....lol
and i've been told I'm average, but cute
Sorry, ATLien, I thought you were a guy. It's hard to tell around here. Cute is good. I'd say the shyness might be an issue. Guys like confident women who can make interesting conversation. Mousy types don't get noticed or are taken for "blah" when, in fact, they're not "blah", and may be quite fascinating. But your love of sports is definitely a plus. And travel. Talk about things you enjoy, and the shyness will disappear, the enthusiasm will show. (Enthusiasm translates into confidence.) What countries have you been to? Do you speak any foreign languages? What were your favorite places to visit and why?
Get out and experience new things. Take an evening class in something you're interested in; You'll learn and you'll meet people. I can so relate to where you're at. It can make a real difference if you find something you're passionate about, whether a cause, or a course of study, a new job. Something that brings you out of your shell. And as has already been observed here, it's a matter of meeting the right person. This may take time, that's not unusual. But in the meantime, you should be enjoying life and making the most of it. It's a journey and an adventure.
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You have your love to offer, that's it. You have your 's to offer, your kindness, your interests, your unique view of the world, and most importantly, your time and love!
Why does dating sound like a business transaction? Job? That should be way down the list of priorities for any girl (I mean guy) who really cared about you.
Last edited by Trimac20; 07-18-2012 at 11:14 PM..
Reason: I just realised the OP was a girl, oops!
Sorry, ATLien, I thought you were a guy. It's hard to tell around here. Cute is good. I'd say the shyness might be an issue. Guys like confident women who can make interesting conversation. Mousy types don't get noticed or are taken for "blah" when, in fact, they're not "blah", and may be quite fascinating. But your love of sports is definitely a plus. And travel. Talk about things you enjoy, and the shyness will disappear, the enthusiasm will show. (Enthusiasm translates into confidence.) What countries have you been to? Do you speak any foreign languages? What were your favorite places to visit and why?
Get out and experience new things. Take an evening class in something you're interested in; You'll learn and you'll meet people. I can so relate to where you're at. It can make a real difference if you find something you're passionate about, whether a cause, or a course of study, a new job. Something that brings you out of your shell. And as has already been observed here, it's a matter of meeting the right person. This may take time, that's not unusual. But in the meantime, you should be enjoying life and making the most of it. It's a journey and an adventure.
OP, youre definitely attractive, pretty and cute - so thats never going to be an issue for you. YOu have to work on your self-esteem, self-confidence, and developing personality. Notice, those are "self" concepts, not "others" concepts. WHat I mean by that, is that its completely meaningless as to how you are perceived by others, and only important how you perceive yourself (as well as you are in complete control of both internaly, and nothing external should impact it). Judging simply by your attractivness, its already quite a bit to offer to any relationship.
futureATLien ... have you ever thought of taking yourself on a date? say for instance, if you like coffee take yourself to various coffee shops and ask for recommendations for something new based on what you usually drink...
carry a book you wouldn't mind talking about if someone ask you what you're reading.
Since you like traveling, does this include different cultures?
What makes you laugh, get you motivated, excited, or spark curiousity in you? Have you thought about being a guide for a couple of hours anywhere that would bring you in contact with people with similiar interests as your own?
I keep feeling it could be simple things whether associated with a museum, a historical society etc. Any ideas come to you?
futureATLien ... have you ever thought of taking yourself on a date? say for instance, if you like coffee take yourself to various coffee shops and ask for recommendations for something new based on what you usually drink...
carry a book you wouldn't mind talking about if someone ask you what you're reading.
Since you like traveling, does this include different cultures?
What makes you laugh, get you motivated, excited, or spark curiousity in you? Have you thought about being a guide for a couple of hours anywhere that would bring you in contact with people with similiar interests as your own?
I keep feeling it could be simple things whether associated with a museum, a historical society etc. Any ideas come to you?
I hangout alone quite often, usually out to eat or at the movies. I haven't really explored my new city as of yet I have only traveled in the us, but I do a lot of research about other cultures and I am interested in trying new foods!
I hangout alone quite often, usually out to eat or at the movies. I haven't really explored my new city as of yet I have only traveled in the us, but I do a lot of research about other cultures and I am interested in trying new foods!
OMG, you are SO cute! And intellectual-looking. Explore your city. Look up meet-up groups online and see if there are any of interest. Guys who are looking for "hot" women won't be interested in you, and you wouldn't be interested in them, anyway. Find the guys who like "cute" and smart. Are you in the tech sector by any chance? It's a great field for meeting a variety of people, lots of young people, lots of diversity. And new foods--get some cookbooks for international fare. That'll pay off down the road, guys love a good cook.
7) don't give a crap if she says no or picks the other guy
That right there sums it all up.
The one thing men need to remember is that women are like trains... If you miss one you can always catch another.
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