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Me, too. You'd think this forum was full of one-percenters.
I thought 1-percenters were bikers. No? Damn!
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Originally Posted by Magnatomicflux
When you grow the **** up, you'll realize that maybe, just maybe, that you're working as a team. If her working and me staying at home is what makes sense for our current situation, then so be it. If my job is easier to leave then hers, if I get more time off, if I get better benefits....I'll stay home. If it's the other way...she stays home. Understand? It doesn't have to be forever either.
I can garuntee you right now, my voice won't change, my balls will not shrink, nor will they fall off, because I'm taking care of my kids. I certainly won't be any less of a man.
If some boy who can't even manage to find himself a girlfriend is going to judge me on that........well, that's....not really going to hurt, now is it?
This is an example of a normal, healthy pov from a man.
This really epitomizes the tendency on C-D to regard dating and couple-hood in purely mercenary terms. Most men IRL wouldn't want to require their wife to save for years just to pay her way through pregnancy and baby care. But...whatever.
No, read the fine wording. She needs to pay for herself and 50% of her responsibility to the child. Are you objecting she shouldnt pay half ,50%, equal share to the responbility of having a child?
if so, thats needs to be CLEARLY stated when this descission is made would you not agree?
I only speak for myself..thats not a good deal for me. I wouldnt do it.
I don't think it's usually a mutual decision to have kids. I think there's a lot of "Oops" babies.
True, but it's still a mutual "oops", usually. There are cases where the woman pretends it's an "oops" so she can quit her job and stay home, but they're rare. In a case like that, it would be reasonable to expect the wife to have money saved. But the couple usually does have money saved, to which savings the wife has contributed. So...what are people saying? That women should all have a special "pregnancy insurance" savings account, separate from the couple's savings?
The most sensible thing if someone is to stay home with the baby is that the person making the most money would stay employed. Some couples do work it that way.
I forget sometimes how pointless it is to argue with someone who makes up their own "facts." I also have a hard time debating with someone who would let their child starve to death because their wife didn't ante up her portion of the bill for food.
Do what you want man but most people are going to look down on a man who stays at home and lets his wife support him (outside of maybe a temporary thing while he's looking for a new job)
That's just the way it is. If it doesn't bother you, then that's fine for you. I would rather chop my nuts off than not earn any money
I don't look down on men who stay home with the children. One of my close friends did that. I thought it was awesome.
I owe you a rep. In fact I owe you a lot more. It can be hoped that one day people understand what being a man is and it isn't being a bread winner or flexing pecks at the "ladies". I applaud thee, Mags' my good man, I applaud thee!
I repped him but you sir, are another fine example of the type of man we like to see around here.
No, read the fine wording. She needs to pay for herself and 50% of her responsibility to the child. Are you objecting she shouldnt pay half ,50%, equal share to the responbility of having a child?
if so, thats needs to be CLEARLY stated when this descission is made would you not agree?
Normally, the wife isn't expected to have a pregnancy-and-baby-care savings account. Most men know that supporting the wife for a little while in relation to the pregnancy (many women work through pregnancy these days, anyway) is part of the marriage package. And of course, all financial matters, spending patterns and expectations, should be discussed before marriage. That's common advise to couples, nothing new.
. So...what are people saying? That women should all have a special "pregnancy insurance" savings account, separate from the couple's savings?
Yes. She should. Are you stating a woman has no financially responbility in a mutual agreement such of having a child. if so, where do you the draw the line?
These things are tough but people need these conversations. thats why we have soooo many divorce battles yet youre hearing saying in real life thats not the case that men feel this way. thats a fairy tell. How often do you think people talk about this??
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