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Um, people, the well-paying jobs that would enable one to both drive and live alone have gone overseas. Read the news once in awhile.
It doesn't take a "well-paying job" to both drive and live alone, provided we are not talking about driving a BMW or Mercedes and needing granite counter tops and the like. Any regular, run-of-the-mill job will do the trick. True, on a minimum wage job it would be difficult. However, the OP has no job at all!
It doesn't take a "well-paying job" to both drive and live alone, provided we are not talking about driving a BMW or Mercedes and needing granite counter tops and the like. Any regular, run-of-the-mill job will do the trick. True, on a minimum wage job it would be difficult. However, the OP has no job at all!
Yes, but with two minimum wage jobs, you should be able to do fine (assuming one does not live in NYC, Boston, or some other absurdly high-cost of living place).
Work two jobs for a year, (or work a job and start up a small home-based business), and save up some money for a year. Invest some of it and put some of it toward a house down payment fund. Grow your home business until it can support you as your primary source of income.
It can be done. It has been done, hundreds and thousands of times!
It doesn't take a "well-paying job" to both drive and live alone, provided we are not talking about driving a BMW or Mercedes and needing granite counter tops and the like. Any regular, run-of-the-mill job will do the trick. True, on a minimum wage job it would be difficult. However, the OP has no job at all!
Exactly. If that were the case, no one would be able to own a house or a car, and there are tens of millions that do both.
If you are living at home because it is mutually beneficial to both you and your parents for you to be there, or because you have nowhere else to go, then it's appropriate. I would have given anything to spend a few years at home paying rent to my parents to go to mortgage - it would have saved me having to deal with roommates, get furniture/cookware, and likely would have been much cheaper on a monthly basis than renting. It would also have helped my parents pay off their mortgage faster and give them some financial breathing room. Unfortunately, I had to take a job 1000 miles away, which leaves me financially and logistically independent (though reliant on roommates to have a roof over my head in a high COL area) but in a much less secure financial position. I would have been able to put away close to $1000 a month making a similar salary if I lived at home - or more if my parents refused to take my rent money. I would have been able to move into my parents' partially finished basement and fix it up - leaving me my own entrance, bathroom, and (with some work on my part) mini-kitchen while also putting sweat equity into the house and help my parents prepare to downsize.
As far as dating, unless there are extenuating circumstances, I'm not going to date a man who still lives at home. I have yet to date someone who did not have roommates (even as old as early 30s - very common in Boston), but that makes sense. I want to be with someone who matches my drive. I packed up and moved 1000 miles away for college, lived in 3 different countries on scholarship, moved again for a job, and then faced cancer almost 100% alone (and certainly alone financially!) before I hit 25. Why waste my time with people who have less drive and motivation than I do? If I was still living in a low COL area, unless the person was saving for a house or had other circumstances, I would probably shy from dating someone who lived with roommates for much longer than a year or two out of college.
Cute Wyo, any other opionated advice you wanna give cause in case you haven't noticed, Obama killed the economy and job market
And there are absolutely NO jobs out there at all? I'm not going to argue that the economy is bad but at least ATTEMPT to get a better job so you can move out.
Guys that want you to have everything together just want that so they can live off of you.
Or maybe they prefer not to have to fully support a person who should be capable of supporting herself, at least partially.
Personally, I don't see any problem with a twenty-something living with his or her parents if that person is working or in school and simply can't afford to move out. Living on your own can be expensive, especially if you can't find a roommate. I couldn't afford to move out of my parents' house until my brother was also making enough money so that we were able to move out together and become roommates. And not having a car or drivers license isn't a big deal to me, necessarily. I have a license but I choose not to own a car. In my town it's easy to get by without one, and that saves a lot of money. Not owning a car allows me to live in the nicest part of town and have an apartment to myself. Totally worth it, in my case.
But it's less excusable if a person doesn't have a job and doesn't even try to get one. The OP sort of sounds like she's looking for a man to come along and support her so she won't have to live with her parents but also won't have to get a job. That may not be it at all, but it seems that way. I doubt most men will be interested in a helpless, jobless princess who can't take of herself. But she needs to work on improving her situation immediately, because the older she gets the more difficult it will be to take that first leap into independence.
This is assuming, of course, that she's a typical 25 year old adult who isn't disabled or anything like that.
What do you mean what to do? Get a job and get a place. Flip burgers and have roommates if you have to. This isn't rocket science. I made $6 an hour at my first job out of college, had a roommate, and still had enough money to go to the bar, because I worked 60 hours a week. (This was the 1990's, not the 1950's. The same job would probably pay $8-10 an hour now.) If you can't find a job to let you work that many hours, get a second job.
I'm 25 years old never have lived on my own and I know most 20 something's do live on their own if not their own apartment they have their own house by themselves. If not some who live with friends or a roomate all paying for rent.
What to do?
Many questions are unanswered. Are you in Tulsa or San Francisco? Many people hang around the house for a few years after college in expensive metro areas and nobody gives each other grief. They move out at about 25 or 26, after saving some money or paying down student loans. My friends who went to law school on the heels of college ALL lived at home. They moved out shortly afterward.
It's 2013. Move out when you are ready, but at a reasonable time, assuming your parents don't care.
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