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Okay, so I met up with a gentleman for a casual date today. I met him on match.com. The date is okay, it last about 1 hour.
Well,. I know I am going to receive a lot of harsh critisms, but oh what the hell. The problem is that I don't find him to be physically attractive.
First of all, I am about 2 inches taller than him. Secondly, he has slight bad breath.
My question is that have you dated somebody you are not physically attracted to? Do you normally give them second chance? Can you learn to love them in the future?
Let me know your thoughts please.
I met my last wife on Match.com. She was a big lady, not my physical "type". But I liked everything about her. We fell in love and got married. A Match.com success story. No one is perfect, and there are many aspects to a relationship. I think she knew how I felt about her weight, although I never said anything about it. And I'm not perfect either. I was never happy with her weight. Not only on a visual level but she was putting her health at risk. Our relationship eventually failed, but that had nothing to do with her weight. So the answer to your question is yes, you can "learn to love them". It's more like overlooking and embracing the postitive virtues, etc.
I met my last wife on Match.com. She was a big lady, not my physical "type". But I liked everything about her. We fell in love and got married. A Match.com success story. No one is perfect, and there are many aspects to a relationship. I think she knew how I felt about her weight, although I never said anything about it. And I'm not perfect either. I was never happy with her weight. Not only on a visual level but she was putting her health at risk. Our relationship eventually failed, but that had nothing to do with her weight. So the answer to your question is yes, you can "learn to love them". It's more like overlooking and embracing the postitive virtues, etc.
I think the issue I have with this gentleman is simply lack of chemistry. He is simply not exciting to me. Plus the bad breath is a deal breaker to a lot of people. I can take it (morning breath or what not) from a man I love anyday, but for somebody I just met, I don't think I can tolerate it. But I understand your point.
Plus, I don't love or like everything else about this guy either. so there. I answered my own question.
A man can learn to love your personality but he has to find you attractive first. And Every single man has a different beauty threshold
Only on this website is that such a "out there" concept. Ladies do this all the time as well but no one says anything to them. Lets keep it real, there have been guys in your life that would've been great "boyfriend material" but they just werent attractive enough so they were placed in the friendzone.
Okay, so I met up with a gentleman for a casual date today. I met him on match.com. The date is okay, it last about 1 hour.
Well,. I know I am going to receive a lot of harsh critisms, but oh what the hell. The problem is that I don't find him to be physically attractive.
First of all, I am about 2 inches taller than him. Secondly, he has slight bad breath.
My question is that have you dated somebody you are not physically attracted to? Do you normally give them second chance? Can you learn to love them in the future?
Let me know your thoughts please.
If I'm not attracted to the person, then that's the end of that. There is no "growing to love" the person.
Don't let the other crazy people on here tell you that you're a bad person for wanting someone you're attracted to. I guarantee you all the people that spout off that stuff about how looks don't mean anything to them, would never date a person they really found unattractive.
^^^^^^ this. And where is ruth4truth who always saying women don't care about men's height?
I know this won't be a popular comment but sometimes we as women will over look a guy's level of attractiveness IF he can provide a nice lifestyle based on his financial prowess.
Happens ALL of the time. How do you think that physically unattractive, fat men can have beautiful wives/girlfriends? Its not their attractive looks but their attractive wallets.
ETA: some will call this (women chosing men based on his bank account as) "gold digging" yet will have no problem with men only wanting "hot" women.
I think most men know this, it's the women on here who are in denial.
Yeah, I can remember one time that happened to me. I wasn't attracted to her at all the first day I met her, and then the next day we ended up all playing drinking games with whiskey ..
Lol, yes alcohol the great equalizer! Many guys have probably slept with unattractive chicks after getting blasted at the bar.
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