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Yesterday I made one. For no reason at all really, I sent my ex a text saying that I need to talk to her, as there are a few things I need to say for closure. She didn't respond.
It's difficult when you care for someone that doesn't care about you at all. Or at least not enough to even respond to a simple message. Then again, maybe she would feel guilty about it since she has a new man... ironic enough, since she didn't mind talking to him when we were together haha.
It will get better in time. Sounds like some of you don't have closure on things, as I don't, but it's really not a necessity.
Oh I feel for you. I am walking in your shoes...but I am sure as you know by now things start to seem a bit more bearable. It's just great to know that we are not alone in our pain...
Nothing stinks any more than breaking up with a loved one and yes I have had that sick to the stomach, can't sleep, can't eat yucks before, more than one time as a matter of fact. Isn't it the pits? About the only thing you can do is ride it out; unfortunately. I spent a lot of time with friends, family and joined an exercise class that helped a lot. If I knew I was going to perhaps be somewhere where the ex was going, I made damn sure I looked good and made damn sure I chatted it up with guys right in front of his sorry butt..LOL.
Stay busy, be with friends and when you are home, try to find somethign to do that will take your mind off of things. One day you will wake up and the sick stomach and the breakup blues will be gone. Hang in there!
Breaking up sucks....for like a week. Then you realise that you are free! Freedom is the greatest feeling in the world. Stay single...write a book, ditch the B**** or As*****.
get really drunk and burn all the pics you have and dump any clothes you got from the x and put them in the goodwill box sellthe concert tickets you bought the x for vallentines day, delete email addresses and phone numbers so you are not tempted to contact them
Breakups suck. I literally went through 27 days of hell before he wanted me back...just last weekend. On day 1, I took immediate changes. I woke up before dawn and went to work early. For someone who's frequently late, that was a drastic change for me. I made sure I looked my best despite the puffy eyes. Put on a brave face and smile at everyone so they can't see through your pain (it's impossible to fool your friends obviously).
Go jogging at a park. Green settings will calm the mind. If you find yourself enraged, run harder and faster - works really well for me! I did hot yoga every day after work and that was soothing for the spirit. Not only did I feel cleansed and healthy, it relaxed me a lot and helped me sleep better at night.
I know that sick-to-the-stomach feeling...it sucks big time. Take a couple of deep breaths when you find your stomach churning, your mind empty, and your heart heavy as if being pulled to the bottom of the ocean. Stay away from anything that reminds you of them (music, food, movies, etc). Meeting new people is ok, but it becomes a vulnerability issue when they're the opposite sex.
I wouldn't talk about them when your friends are around - it will only make you analyze everything to death which essentially won't help since your friends are partial. I've learned not to discuss about the what if's and what went wrong's with my friends since that just negates the ex's image in the eyes of your good friends.
Clean often if you're a sloth like me. Distract yourself by picking up anything out of order. I put away my clothes and folded them meticulously - almost too perfectly - and I HATE folding laundry with a passion.
Cry as much as you need to, alone though. Write down your feelings. I emailed myself every day post breakup to let my inner feelings out. Reading back on those thoughts is a self-learning experience...you'll be surprised at how much you can discover about yourself. Even when your mood flunctuates, write them and don't hold anything back because you're the only one reading those words. Whether they are loving or hateful, sweet or bitter, only YOU will see those conveyed feelings.
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