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My ex-wife texted me earlier today - she's 5 weeks pregnant! It's her new BF's, a younger guy (early 20s), who actually sounds like a great guy. I know he was working 2 jobs and trying to save for a house..I guess it's going towards the pregnancy now, baby and my ex-wife.
The part I feel bad about, is just last week she was apologizing, asking for a second chance, saying we're soul mates and that what she did (cheat) is not who she is. I told her no.
Partly feeling sad, happy for her, and like I'm missing out on something...
You're missing out on something you should be thrilled about missing out on. She's an ex. Unless you have children together, make it a real split and get on with your life. Good luck.
She is an ex. Your ties are cut. You are missing out on child support, visitation, and dealing with an ex. IMO you dodged a huge bullet. Life has a funny way of working itself out. Consider yourself lucky.
My ex-wife texted me earlier today - she's 5 weeks pregnant! It's her new BF's, a younger guy (early 20s), who actually sounds like a great guy. I know he was working 2 jobs and trying to save for a house..I guess it's going towards the pregnancy now, baby and my ex-wife.
The part I feel bad about, is just last week she was apologizing, asking for a second chance, saying we're soul mates and that what she did (cheat) is not who she is. I told her no.
Partly feeling sad, happy for her, and like I'm missing out on something...
You aren't. She is an ex for a reason. People that strap themselves to thoughts of "what could have been" are nothing but emotional wrecks that can never figure out how to be happy because they don't face reality. Move on. Don't be that guy.
She is an ex. Your ties are cut. You are missing out on child support, visitation, and dealing with an ex. IMO you dodged a huge bullet. Life has a funny way of working itself out. Consider yourself lucky.
This is what I was thinking too!!!
Imagine if he said, "yeah, I'll give you another shot."
"I'm pregnant and it's not yours."
Lol!!!
Now he can sit back with popcorn watching her sleep in the lumpy bed she just made. Lol!
I understand you're feeling a bit sad about it but you never know what's around the corner, you might meet someone and have your own child in the near future
My ex-wife texted me earlier today - she's 5 weeks pregnant! It's her new BF's, a younger guy (early 20s), who actually sounds like a great guy. I know he was working 2 jobs and trying to save for a house..I guess it's going towards the pregnancy now, baby and my ex-wife.
The part I feel bad about, is just last week she was apologizing, asking for a second chance, saying we're soul mates and that what she did (cheat) is not who she is. I told her no.
Partly feeling sad, happy for her, and like I'm missing out on something...
Anyway, just an update..
No surprises here
Look, you can't help how you feel, but the thoughts you allow into your head DO affect those feelings, so be careful to protect yourself ok?
THIS WOMAN HAS ISSUES - you know it, just keep reminding yourself of it!
Then remind yourself that you have dodged a huge bullet and pray for that little baby who has not.
Pregnancy could have caused some crazy flow of emotions to make her want to reconcile with you last week. What would likely have happened, if you would have said yes, is in a couple of weeks she would be up to her old antics. In order to forgive someone and regain trust in them, it takes time of consistent positive behavior. It can't be just one or two weeks and expect to get back in their good graces.
You experienced love and heartbreak with this woman, but the road she is leading herself down now, is the road you do not want to be on. You may feel the overwhelming desire at times to be "captain save a ho" (no offense to your ex-wife, figure of speech), but some women are just not worth saving. Just continue to give yourself time to process all of this and take it one day at a time. Most days will be good, but you will have to be aware that there will be some tough days too.
I guess I am suspicious and uncharitable, but is it possible that she knew she was pregnant and thought you would be a better father than him? The timing would work out late enough that she might had known she was pregnant but early enough to pass it off as yours. Anyway there is no real way to find out her motives, just that there might be more going on than was portrayed on the surface.
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