How Do Most Men Date? (dating, marry, women, single)
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When I go out somewhere, I rarely see men randomly approaching women. When I do see approaches, I see terrible rejections about 95% of the time, yet you still see couples left and right. I think I've seen very very very few men approach and be successful in my lifetime
So how do most men date? Do they all rely on meeting women through their social circle/work? What about the men who can't seem to find anybody in their social circle, what do they do?
When I go out somewhere, I rarely see men randomly approaching women. When I do see approaches, I see terrible rejections about 95% of the time, yet you still see couples left and right. I think I've seen very very very few men approach and be successful in my lifetime
So how do most men date? Do they all rely on meeting women through their social circle/work? What about the men who can't seem to find anybody in their social circle, what do they do?
They join sports leagues or hiking groups (that's a MAJOR way in which people meet and marry in some cities), they meet through friends or at parties, they meet while volunteering for political and enviro orgs, and some do meet through cold approaches. Some meet in college or grad school, or at work. Some meet while travelling/on vacation.
When I go out somewhere, I rarely see men randomly approaching women. When I do see approaches, I see terrible rejections about 95% of the time, yet you still see couples left and right. I think I've seen very very very few men approach and be successful in my lifetime
So how do most men date? Do they all rely on meeting women through their social circle/work? What about the men who can't seem to find anybody in their social circle, what do they do?
Online dating sites can help in terms of the mechanics of actually *getting* a prospective date in my experience, but getting from dating to a relationship itself can be the tricky thing...
As far as my social circle and friends and family, they have demonstrated repeatedly in the past that they could really care less about helping me in the romance dept., even when I very nicely and politely asked them for assistance. IMO, men are much better off relying on only themselves, and looking for women romantically using a lone wolf approach. The trick is to just keep trying until you can actually find a girl who says "Yes" to your approaches, instead of "No."
I don't know who the men are who have success with online dating. I've talked to so many guys who said online dating is almost hopeless. These are perfectly normal men with plenty of redeeming qualities
Not to say that cold approaches never work, but the odds are high that the person you've approached out of nowhere won't be interested or available. Personally, I've had better luck with people I've met through a mutual friend or activity. In a way they've already been vetted, and you already know them a bit and have something in common.
Online dating sites can help in terms of the mechanics of actually *getting* a prospective date in my experience, but getting from dating to a relationship itself can be the tricky thing...
As far as my social circle and friends and family, they have demonstrated repeatedly in the past that they could really care less about helping me, even when I very nicely and politely asked them for assistance. IMO, men are much better off only relying on only themselves, and looking for women romantically using a lone wolf approach. The trick is to just keep trying until you can actually find a girl who says "Yes" to your approaches, instead of "No."
Good post. I don't know about the lone wolf approach though. How many guys are okay with getting rejected on a regular basis?
Not to say that cold approaches never work, but the odds are high that the person you've approached out of nowhere won't be interested or available. Personally, I've had better luck with people I've met through a mutual friend or activity. In a way they've already been vetted, and you already know them a bit and have something in common.
well available part is easy. You can ask them "are you single" before you ask them out
The hard part for guys is the interest part. Cold approaches are very very hard because any halfway decent looking girl has tons and tons of guys in her social circle trying to get after her. How in the world can you raise yourself above the 10 other guys in a 15-20 minute conversation?
Online, Or through a social gathering with friends. Or work.
social gathering with friends is probably #1. Work/School are probably #2
I don't know about online though. I have met very few men who've had any success in online dating
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