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Go ahead and be honest. Is it? At my job, I have a crush on this guy. I have a body shape that is definitely "more to love." The guy is kind, helpful, and friendly to me, but makes it fairly clear that he is uninterested romantically. He clearly is attracted to this other woman, however, who has a great body but... has bad teeth. The two front teeth are yellowed and slightly rotted-looking. And he is clearly attracted to her. And he is not an unkept person himself. He dresses decently and has goo hygiene. I am not saying he has to be attracted to me or anything but seriously...her over me? Even with a better by Thewoman does not take care of her MOUTH. He is interested in kissing that...? It - at least to me - also reflects how she might care for a future child`s hygiene (not wel)...etc. Maybe I am guilty of a different kind of prejudice, I don`t know.
Go ahead and be honest. Is it? At my job, I have a crush on this guy. I have a body shape that is definitely "more to love." The guy is kind, helpful, and friendly to me, but makes it fairly clear that he is uninterested romantically. He clearly is attracted to this other woman, however, who has a great body but... has bad teeth. The two front teeth are yellowed and slightly rotted-looking. And he is clearly attracted to her. And he is not an unkept person himself. He dresses decently and has goo hygiene. I am not saying he has to be attracted to me or anything but seriously...her over me? Even with a better by Thewoman does not take care of her MOUTH. He is interested in kissing that...? It - at least to me - also reflects how she might care for a future child`s hygiene (not wel)...etc. Maybe I am guilty of a different kind of prejudice, I don`t know. But the truth is, this isn`t the first time I
You never know why one is attracted to someone, it happens, life goes on, the earth continues to turn and there is no reason to think they are any better than you overall.
As far as her teeth go, you really have no idea why her teeth are like that, it could be lack of hygiene however, it could she had an eating disorder at one time, she could be a recovering drug user, she could just have naturally bad teeth (it happens). So to assume that one does not take care of their dental hygiene and would not properly take care of their child's dental hygiene properly is making quite an assumption without any basis in fact.
Based on what you've written, I get the impression that you believe that her physical imperfections are worse than your own, and hence, he should like you, and not her?
Maybe it's not your weight that prevents him from finding you attractive. Maybe there are other physical traits? Or perhaps even personality traits that you have that he may find undesirable?
In the same respect, if he is truly attracted to this other woman, then clearly it's not her teeth that prevents him from wanting her.
Unless he confides in you directly, you will never know why he has chosen her over you.
Why play this comparison game, when in the end, you'll lose?
Let him go and find another guy who cares for you and reciprocates your feelings.
Go ahead and be honest. Is it? At my job, I have a crush on this guy. I have a body shape that is definitely "more to love." The guy is kind, helpful, and friendly to me, but makes it fairly clear that he is uninterested romantically. He clearly is attracted to this other woman, however, who has a great body but... has bad teeth. The two front teeth are yellowed and slightly rotted-looking. And he is clearly attracted to her. And he is not an unkept person himself. He dresses decently and has goo hygiene. I am not saying he has to be attracted to me or anything but seriously...her over me? Even with a better by Thewoman does not take care of her MOUTH. He is interested in kissing that...? It - at least to me - also reflects how she might care for a future child`s hygiene (not wel)...etc. Maybe I am guilty of a different kind of prejudice, I don`t know.
No. Not at all.
I can't deal with a messed up mouth. Really bad teeth drive me up a wall.
Reminds me of this guy I worked with, who seemed to drink Coke exclusively. His teeth looked like they were very, very soft. And I SWEAR, he didn't drink the pop. He just tilted it towards his mouth, and his teeth simply absorbed the liquid. Straight into his bloodstream. lol
They also won't complain what and how much I am eating.
"Fat" is very subjective and personal. If women listened to everything they read, they would lose all hope and cry their eyes out every night before falling asleep.
I have yet to date a woman with a six-pack.............doubt I ever will.
Being fat is not the worst thing a woman can be to turn off a guy. A horrible personality is.
However, if we are strictly talking about dating opportunities, it's probably better to be at the very least average to increase your odds. It's definitely possible the guy you are interested in might feel the same way if you weighed less.
Is being fat literally the worst thing a woman can be? Go ahead and be honest. Is it?
Clearly not. What an absurd question. A raging pedophile or a serial murder - a consistent and on going practice of sexual indiscretion while in a relationship - I could list 100s of things worse than simple obesity.
Also you are forgetting there are a not insignificant portion of people out there who are happily attracted to the larger woman.
So the force of your question - and the basis of it - appear to be escaping me entirely.
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but seriously...her over me?
Why not? You are judging yourself - and her - by YOUR standards of what you think should be attractive or unattractive. And extrapolating from this that being "fat" is the worst thing you can be.
You are failing to realise that HIS standards - not yours - are what are applicable here. She clearly fits his criteria. You perhaps do not. End of.
Extrapolating this into a judgement of yourself or your own characteristics is an error. Do not fall into that error.
I know it's hard to be objective but if that guy isn't interested in you then he's not the one for you. THAT guy prefers the woman with bad teeth. Not true of all guys.
Fat is a difficult burden, but it's not the worst thing in the world. You already know that.
Since it's so difficult to slim down much, why not try to simply keep from gaining more weight by gradually changing your diet and increasing the amount of exercise you get? If you join the Y or other health club you could work on improving your overall health.
Good health usually increases your self esteem which will make you more attractive to others. Don't give up on yourself.
To be quite honest, in the dating world, being fat is a disadvantage, for both genders. I myself, don't discriminate overweight women, but unfortunately, a lot of men do.
Sucks, I know.
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