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Seriously, grow the F up. I'm friends with a few of my ex's on FB (who I had sex with when we were dating) and by golly, occasionally I "like" their FB posts. Just because I'm not dating them anymore, doesn't mean I need to completely cut them out of my life. Every single of my breakups was on good terms. No big fights or anything. Just realizing we weren't right for each other.
Wanna know something funny? My ex from college helped set me up with one of her high school friends -- and we've been dating for almost a year and a half now. We were both grown up enough that we put our past behind us.
The definition of insanity is repeating the same behaviors and expecting different outcomes.
In your case, that means posting on City Data about how little you trust your girlfriend, and ignoring all advice about what to do.
Time to change the habit. This time, either follow someone's (anyone's) advice and do something about the relationship---whether it's to get counseling, break up (you'd be doing her a favor), or anything at all---or just stop torturing yourself and us by refraining from posting until you get your stuff in order.
There's nothing else anyone can do for you at this point. It's on you to make a change.
Yeah if she wasn't a friend of an ex **** buddy on facebook she wouldn't be "punished"!
She's not a real-life friend of the guy (from what you've told us); they're friends on FB, that's all. They send each other an occasional "like" rating. Why does that, for you, equate to her having sex with him behind your back? To normal people (like us), you sound hysterical. Paranoid and hysterical. Yours is not normal thinking.
You're not ready to be in a relationship. Get some professional help, consider it an investment in yourself, and in a year or two, you could well be ready to try again. It doesn't mean being single for the rest of your life (though you will be, if you do nothing to deal with your insecurities and your paranoia); it only means being single maybe for a year or two
You'll be much happier when you don't have these crazy thoughts going through your head. Relationships sound very stressful for you. They shouldn't be. There's a better way to live, and you can get there, if you get serious about dealing with your issues.
I have plenty of friends who are friends on Facebook with people they slept with/dated. It's not big deal in my opinion. You can't prevent her from having a past. Liking someone's post on Facebook isn't evidence pointing towards one of them having actual romantic feelings. Most people like posts because they appear on their "news feed" regardless of whose post it is. It's rather mecanichal.
You guys are calling me sick, crazy , that i need therapy...you don't know what i've been through. Don't understand my past, how much i've suffered in my entire love life!
Why should your past be her problem?
The reason people are saying that is that you will always have these issues unless you deal with it, either personally or professionally.
My wife can friend anyone she wants on FB.. If she is going to cheat, she is going to cheat.. Nothing I can do about it.
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If I was your GF, I'd dump you with your insecurities. I like & comment on statuses often but don't actually have conversations with them. Sounds like you're trying to place your past relationship failures on your GF by trying to control her and making issues out of nothing.
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