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I am hearing you. But what I am saying...and said several posts ago, is that I've never ever had that happen. Have I had bad sex? Yes....in every case (2) I was making the mistake of having sex for the sake of having sex. If I had waited, and learned more about us, neither if those incidents would ever have taken place.
For whatever reason, timberline refuses to believe that other people have wildly different life/sex/romantic experiences from what he has lived. Just agree to disagree and move on - that's what I had to do.
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Or maybe it's because you keep women in the friend zone so long, they give up on you as a romantic interest.
No...to my knowledge, none of the people I have ever liked have ever had any romantic interest in me. There have been a couple people who expressed interest, but I had no interest in them. It's a depressing thing. That's life, I guess. Mine, anyway.
There's been a lot of bumping of ancient threads that deserved to die, lately. It's the collective annoyance here that Geoff was expressing.
Nope. I was expressing only my personal annoyance.
I noticed the really old dates and I posted my snarky comment to prevent more people from posting to an ancient thread. A public service more than expressing annoyance.
I am a guy. The usual number of dates until I have had sex is about 4 to 5 dates (sometimes sooner).
I have been out with this lady 7 times (over a 5 to 6 week period). I thought 7 was a "lucky" number but to no avail. And when I say no sex, I mean zero sex (of any kind). To be fair, this girl did tell me on date No. 1 that she is a "traditional" girl. I should have quizzed her on what that meant.
I thought 7 dates was a real long wait...so I am thinking it may be best to part our separate ways? I am not sure how long until she feels comfortable but she is 29 years old and has only had one sexual partner (her ex-husband). So the waiting game here could stretch on for a while...though she assures me she is NOT waiting for marriage until she has sex. She just wants to feel comfortable and that she can trust the guy she is with.
Be patient or move on...? For those that answer please specify your gender, just trying to get some perspective. Thanks.
(I'm a woman) I think you may as well end it. If you can honestly walk away from this woman after only 7 dates, then you're not even close to building trust or falling in Love with her. And she'd be exactly 100% right not to have sex with you anyway.
It is what it is.. And it's plain as day: She wants a relationship, you just want to sex. Surely you can admit that.
* ( Aw jeez, ok, now I see everyone complaining this is an old thread...lol )
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