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Old 05-21-2016, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Pacific 🌉 °N, 🌄°W
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You thought a millionaire CEO was 34?
There are plenty of them here in the Bay Area at that age.

 
Old 05-21-2016, 10:17 AM
 
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He was unhappy and/or bored and he found the perfect fling. You sent yourself up for being a part-time girlfriend by keeping your demands on his time small and manageable. He has cut you off because he was only interested in keeping you on a string as a potential lover and now that is no longer possible. He will not contact you because he does not want to involve himself in a messy emotional situation with someone he does not care about and he is worried about collateral damage to his other life. Take this as a sign that he doesn't even care enough to face the fallout of the mess he created by his involvement with you and that he cares nothing for your feelings.

Your "love" for him is nothing but clouds in the sky, imagined to be solid form or substance but in reality nothing more than smoke. You should be mature enough to recognize this and cast this whole episode as what it is - nothing more than an opportunity to learn and grow. Remember this is on you not him you let yourself become enamored with someone whom you knew nothing about.

If it makes you feel better then gather up your emails and evidence and send them to his wife along with a nice note that explains how he lied to you and saying you thought she ought to know. If not just let it go and take it as a learning experience - some guys are Aholes
 
Old 05-21-2016, 10:22 AM
 
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The best way to help give the OP a very small degree of closure would be for this thread to be closed.

Then again, a new one would likely be started within hours.
 
Old 05-21-2016, 10:34 AM
 
Location: Texas
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There are plenty of them here in the Bay Area at that age.
Yeah.
And I bet they're all looking for true love online.

I can see a start-up, IT, silicon valley kind of dude...but not defense contracting in D.C.
 
Old 05-21-2016, 10:53 AM
 
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Yeah.
And I bet they're all looking for true love online.

I can see a start-up, IT, silicon valley kind of dude...but not defense contracting in D.C.
You would be surprised at how many young millionaires there are in the US.

The brother and sister who founded MyYearBook.com are young millionaires.

Just google US millionaires under 34 and you will be surprised.
 
Old 05-21-2016, 11:02 AM
 
Location: Texas
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You would be surprised at how many young millionaires there are in the US.

The brother and sister who founded MyYearBook.com are young millionaires.

Just google US millionaires under 34 and you will be surprised.
I wouldn't be surprised as I know/knew many.
Frankly, a million bucks just isn't that much money anymore.
None of them online date.
It's the position more than the money that made me roll my eyes.

And of course it's technically possible, but add that fact into everything else she got from this guy (and didn't get), and you don't have to be a genius to see what a rube she was being.

I mean, this isn't Fifty Shades of Grey. What else? This young millionaire ride a unicorn?
 
Old 05-21-2016, 11:09 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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Getting "closure" in an online fantasy relationship only requires closing your browser.
This ^^ although I would have just texted, "I don't have any type of relationships with married men".

OP was in love with the fantasy. Fantasy evaporated, thus that was the closure.
 
Old 05-21-2016, 11:13 AM
 
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I wouldn't be surprised as I know/knew many.
Frankly, a million bucks just isn't that much money anymore.
Only for a person who has no financial sense or investing sense.
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None of them online date.
Speculation.
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It's the position more than the money that made me roll my eyes.
It's clear you don't know much about CEO defense salaries. CEO Defense Salaries
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And of course it's technically possible, but add that fact into everything else she got from this guy (and didn't get), and you don't have to be a genius to see what a rube she was being.
Not just technically possible but absolutely possible.

Bottom line she was not wise to emotionally invest in a person she never met. Not wise to carry on a 2 year childish game if indeed any of this story is real.
 
Old 05-21-2016, 12:13 PM
 
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Closure is not something that is given by other people; it's something you give yourself.

Well said. I had to learn that one the hard way.
 
Old 05-21-2016, 12:22 PM
 
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My gut feeling is that, he was afraid eventually to disclose the fact that he is infact married
since he felt he might lose all the communication with me & continued as long as he could.


This clearly showed he wasn't happy in a marriage & perhaps if he divorces his wife she would take half of this money.
So my feeling is that he started to look for affection & love outside of marriage
Could be true, but ultimately it doesn't matter. I know it's hard to do, but the best thing you can do is not analyze anything about him and just move on. Stick to dating guys in person, who live in the same town you do.

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