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And yes, it was irrelevant to the cheating...so why ask?
The OP will seek help when they are good and ready.
There is so much shame attached to sexual abuse that you don't want to talk to anyone about it. You did not receive help when you needed it, so you doubt that anyone can help now.
Does that answer this ridiculous question?
AGREED 100% It's not something that exactly want to post to the world.
BUT, from the OP's sentence it sounds like therapy would be in order as it is actively affecting his life into his 30s. No shame in that.
Currently I am searching for a counselor to consult with, and I'm DEFINETLEY keeping Divorce in the back of my mind.
It's safe to say that my knows nothing about my membership on this forum as well.
Thank you for asking... :-) STILL UPSET THOUGH. I'm off today, so I'm so I'm going to start to seek for some counseling as others on here have rightfully suggested. Not going to be something I want to talkj about but it has to be done...
Thank you for asking... :-) STILL UPSET THOUGH. I'm off today, so I'm so I'm going to start to seek for some counseling as others on here have rightfully suggested. Not going to be something I want to talkj about but it has to be done...
I'm really glad to hear that. Best of luck to you.
My wife cheated on me with my best friend. I found out this morning when my friend admitted to sleeping with her, and showed me the pictures he took of her naked. When I confronted my wife she said its because I'm terrible in bed. I was repeatedly sexually abused when I was 8 years old, and I find sex too hard deal with. The whole thing is too emotional for me, and she knows this. I love her so should I forgive her?
My wife cheated on me with my best friend. I found out this morning when my friend admitted to sleeping with her, and showed me the pictures he took of her naked. When I confronted my wife she said its because I'm terrible in bed. I was repeatedly sexually abused when I was 8 years old, and I find sex too hard deal with. The whole thing is too emotional for me, and she knows this. I love her so should I forgive her?
The problem won't go away. If you have drawn a line in the sand, more like a high thick wall, then this is a fairly likely consequence that a reasonable person might expect. This part is on your shoulders, quite apart from her affair.
You need to heal, and it probably will take some outside help for you to get past your experience.
Why on earth would she marry you if she thinks you're awful in bed?
Seems like a big waste of time for both parties.
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